Im Bored all the Time

[vitor]

You know its friday night, had the day off, went and looked at my new house im building, worked out, did cardio, im waiting for my girl to get off work so we can have dinner, watch a movie and ... . I just find myself bored all of the time, ever since I got back from active duty shit sucks. I workout at 6am, work from 8-6ish then I come home eat, watch tv, maybe go out, and repeat. Anyone else bored with the day to day, im a young guy, have some nice money own some real estate but Im so bored with this. Their has to be more to life then waking up, working out, working, and repeating.

Any Ideas, I know im not alone.

 

[JETHRO TULL]

I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE SAYING, VITOR!

I MAY NOT BE THE ONE TO ASK, BUT I GOT A LOT OF PEACE THROUGH MY FAITH IN GOD. THE OTHER THING FOR ME WAS FINDING SOMETHING I WAS ACTUALLY PASSIONATE ABOUT DOING. BELIEVE ME ....MOST OF THE TIME TEACHING WAS NOT IT! I HAVE FUN DOING DIFFERENT ACTIVITIES ALL SUMMER LONG AND I FEEL VERY FREE. FOR ME HAVING LITTLE OR NO OBLIGATIONS AND TO TONS OF ROOM TO DO WHATEVER I WANT KEEPS ME HAPPY.

 

[Sigmund Roid]

Vitor.

According to what I have studied, one or more of your basic needs are not being met. What are your basic needs? #1 survival #2 love, loving sex, and belonging #3 power (we want to win, to run things, to have it our own way, and tell others what to do) #4 freedom #5 fun.

When you say you are bored, it doesn't sound like you are having any fun, Vitor! With the possible exception of whales and porpoises, we are the only animals who play all our lives. The day we stop playing is the day we stop learning. Fun is best defined by laughter. Find some fun things to do Vitor, there is rarely anyone standing in our way of that!

I hope some other people will chime in here and voice their opinions, because I am sure you are not alone in this situation.

 

[Nemesis79]

I know it sounds childish but play video games..I'm 25 grew up on atari...I lift..takign some grad classes..run a business..am buying real estate..like reading up research..play with lotsa girls(now lookin to settle down) got lots of friends but dont' hang with most em anymore..it's the usual guys..and u know it..their all juicers..i know u all experienced when u start juicing u end up hanging with fellow bb'ers..

well back to my point..nothing like kicking back and playing a good game of xbox..halo 2..or any other fantasy/sci fi game..I also like to watch japanimation. works well...you work hard immerse yourself into this fantasy realm and get back refreshed..well that's how i feel.

Try it out
later
now time for my eq hehehe

 

[zephyr22]

I have to agree....

Im bored lately as well. Also the darn weather is sucking lately. It getting winter like where Im at. I always hate winter. It gets dark so early, never any sunshine. I just think Im more of sunny warm type person. Anyhow yes Im looking for the answer to a same day every day schedule. I have a fiancee a child (working on a second) and Im bored as hell. I just feel like Im going through the motions on a daily basis. Heck I dont know. Well somebodys got to know something more about this.

 

[vitor]

I play video games, workout alot, work alot,have lots of sex, but Im looking for something more, Thanks for the advice and its good to know im not alone at being bored these days.

 

[Vander_V]

I play video games, workout alot, work alot,have lots of sex, but Im looking for something more, Thanks for the advice and its good to know im not alone at being bored these days.

Be thankful for what you have.

 

[vitor]

Thats my problem I guess, Its not easy to see how good I really have it I guess. Im going to try going to church or something to give me some spirituality.

Thanks for the support, I love this message board, check it too often because im bored.

 

[Armageddon]

Vander may have a point. You have things going well for you, and you just went and did something that you believe in by going over seas. That's alot of stuff. Think how things may have turned out differently for you. You could have not come back from over seas, or you could have lost everything that you have had for soo long while you were there. Granted i think that this may be only a small portion of what your feeling but try and use that to bring out more positive thoughts and reinforcement.
I'm guessing that since you've been over there and seen the bigger picture of things, you don't feel your living your life to the fullest by just working out, working, and going out. i maybe wrong, but I maybe right also. i would say don't get caught up in so much of what's going on and get caught up in yourself and your woman. Not saying be self absorbed or anything but do the things that are good for the two of you and that should bring out the fun and fulfillment.

 

[haze324]

I know what you mean bro.

I'm in your same shoes man. I get bored a lot and sometimes it brings me down to the point I'm not motivated to do things. I also have a well rounded life. Ride motorcycles, workout, work, two dogs, gogeous girlfriend....and I'm with you on the active duty. I make frequent trips overseas and while I'm gone althouth I don't have my bike or dogs I do have a sense of urgency and importance to my job. Something that I lack when I'm in the states so many times I see myself just going through the motions of life and its starting to get to me. I know there is so much more for me to accomplish. I just started going to school again and I'm bored with that too. I find myself motivated when I have to work under pressure or when I'm shooting for a goal. Other than that, I'm bored!

 

[Sigmund Roid]

Bored ex-military guys:

I watched this interview on the Dennis Miller show with two special forces guys who are over in Iraq. These two guys were big and well built. Their job is to lure Iraqi 'bad guys' into trying to kidnap them. Holy crap. They said they left a lot of these bandits laying in the streets with bullet holes in them. [dead]

They are saying just what you fellas are saying: Civilian life is a bit too tame and without purpose once you've been at that level. They go parachuting etc...just to get that adrenaline kick. I guess it takes time to jack back down to normal civilian life.

 

[vitor]

I mean shit the most exciting thing I do these days, is close a loan, goto the strip club, go shooting, 9mm smith and wesson, hopefully my weekend reserve time will be exciting.

I am planning another trip to brazil in April, this time not bringing my lady. Going with about 4 guy friends and my brother. It is truly a mans paradise over there, mildy exciting because everyone and their mom is trying to size you up, to see if they can rob you, scam you, or just take advantage of you, but im just going to get me some BIG Booty Brazilian's.

Im gonna try to do some paint ball, hunting is boring to me, because If you have a sniper rifle, crazy camo, deer pee pee, its like shooting fish in a barrel.

 

[Sigmund Roid]

vitor.

I go shooting a lot as well. I have a walther .40, a 357 mag, and am going to purchase a Baretta 9mm soon now that the ban is off the high capacity clips! Your trip sounds like fun! There you go. I am bored as hell half the time too. Believe me.

 

[BigMatt]

Im bored too,working Monday to Friday 8-4:30 Working out 3 times per week...

Here in Canada it's winter big time! Lot of snow And its getting dark around 3:00 pm.It's really depressing...

Hell i don't even have a girlfriend and this christmas is going to be boring and lonely...

I need to do something that would help me out...

 

[Armageddon]

HUNTING IS AWESOME WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT. I go into these remote locations(trashy bars) and see what I can find then I go back to the night clubs look around and find a victim. from there its all about the stalk, see what she checks out look around see what she drinks, blah blah blah, then go talk to her and see how things are and what not. Work your angle and see if you can get her to come home and what not. If it works then, I say I have to go and get my coat I'll be right back. then I go home and pig out on eggwhites and beef. I know it sounds fucked up but It gives me something to do. i don't take them home and nothing happens. It's my fun and satisfaction on knowing I could. Trust me its better than it used to be. Meaningless sex gets old even though its fun. Now for excitement I go out and try and not catch anything from these chicks.

 

[Dave_19]

well you said ever since you got back from active duty you felt like this. I think its something called Transition blues. Time and motivation help. I moved 2300 miles from home knowing no one last May and im dealing with it now, once you get your life back into routine you will feel better, in the mean time just try to focus on some hobbies you like.

 

[mark86]

hey

you may consider getting involved in volunteer work, rather it be with a hospital, meals on wheels, visiting the elderly, habitat for humanity. How about being a mentor to a kid? Always something to do if you look for it!

 

[IronMike]

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Flippant as this may sound, do you have any waterways around you? I find fishing is a very useful passtime for relaxation, learning to spend peaceful time alone and just enjoying some fresh air. You can take your meals with you too so there's no sacrificing.

Night time fishing clears up that question of how to stay outta trouble on a Saturday night as well.

Maybe take to learning something, or (something fun) find a local sport and follow a local team in something you've never really gotten into.

There's heaps to do, but I think you're at that age where you are at a loose end and there's no more running with the crowd, you gotta make your own fun.

Or build something!

Good luck,

IronMike