Just cant stay happy with any one woman?

[CatCrapp]

I am 26. Got married at 24, divorced at 26 and remarried again to another woman within a few months. Looking back at my life i think i always get bored with any girl i have been with within a few months and i start thinking "the grass is greener on the other side" which mostly isnt. Not i miss my ex wife and realize how much she used to do for me and how i took her for granted. All my meals she cooked, shaved me from head to toe and always helped out with the bills and all i did was leave her for another woman. I dont enjoy being single and i like having a girl who is devoted to me but for some reason i always end up getting bored of them sooner or later. Sorry just needed to vent

 

[pesty4077]

Then why get married? Enjoy the single life, until you can make a true commitment. It took me till the age of 35 before I did.

 

[CatCrapp]

Then why get married?

Because i have noticed a lot of women wont devote themselves to taking care of you (physically as in cooking for you, doing your laundry and cleaning etc etc) unless they see you are 100 percent exclusive to them. Which is fine because i never cheat on anyone but i just get bored and want to leave them eventually.

 

[tre]

Sounds like marriage definitely isn't for you...at least not yet. I'm not married and never have been and sometimes I wonder the same thing about myself. It's ALWAYS more exciting with new women....the infatuation, the sex, new things to talk about and experience. I've been with the same girl for well over a year now and have been faithful to her 100%. I think it's human tendency to be selfish and to want something other than what we have. At some point, a guys gotta come to the reality that this is no way to happiness...

 

[VinNJ]

your to young to get married, play the field.

 

[pesty4077]

Because i have noticed a lot of women wont devote themselves to taking care of you (physically as in cooking for you, doing your laundry and cleaning etc etc) unless they see you are 100 percent exclusive to them. Which is fine because i never cheat on anyone but i just get bored and want to leave them eventually.

LMAO, I been with my wife for close to 20 years and wouldn't ask, or assume for her to do those things for me. Learn to take care of yourself and then you won't depend on somebody else to do it for you. It is a 2 way street.

 

[marinescout]

Take it from some of us fella's who have been married away.....your too young! I got married at 25....10 years ago....and the roughest years were when I was in my 20's. When your in your 20's, you still want some freedom and to party. Wait till your in your 30's....or on your death bed

 

[overman]

interesting

You stated you get "bored." Explore and understand your boredom...what it means, how it surfaces, when it surfaces, etc. Actually, make it very specific by labeling it and describing 'it'. Kinda vague and arbitrary at this point. My advice, be inventive and creative in your relationship- demonstrates maturity and committment. Reality- you are married, correct? COMMUNICATE with your partner and be honest with yourself about what you prefer, desire, want, etc from the relationship. Remember marriage is a partnership- mutual, complementary, and about sharing.

Boredom may reflect dissatisfaction; however, what is the dissatisfaction about? Stemming from what? Record your thoughts, daydreams, etc to discover what may be missing or left unfulfilled. Develop and demonstrate the courage and strength to be honest and communicate with your wife. Lazy, cowardly men flee from a challenge and escape or hide...

Could be wrong...just trying to make you think and get you motivated.

 

[ericraven2003]

Because i have noticed a lot of women wont devote themselves to taking care of you (physically as in cooking for you, doing your laundry and cleaning etc etc).

Are you living in the 1950's? Be a man and learn to take care of yourself. What a shitty reason to be in a relationship.

 

[loganb_football]

Im going to have to agree with what most guys are saying. Marriage is probably not for you right now... I haven't been married, but you were quick to point out that she took care of YOU.

You seem to be fixated on what a woman will do for you instead of who really completes you as a person. Maybe that could be why?

 

[MonkeyBoy]

LMAO, I been with my wife for close to 20 years and wouldn't ask, or assume for her to do those things for me. Learn to take care of yourself and then you won't depend on somebody else to do it for you. It is a 2 way street.

Very good point

 

[asteelz]

im in the same boat as you man, being younger doesnt help either. there is so much temptation out there, i feel as though each new girl i meet has so much to offer over the next, yet i always end up going back with my ex of 3 years who loves/cooks/cleans/laundry/etc and fucks like a pornstar. she was also a virgin before me and has not been with any other guys, making it even harder to Peace for me.

 

[njpooldude]

LMAO, I been with my wife for close to 20 years and wouldn't ask, or assume for her to do those things for me. Learn to take care of yourself and then you won't depend on somebody else to do it for you. It is a 2 way street.

yea bro... you need to rethink your reasons for getting married lol...

 

[oldfella]

Bro? If all you want is a maid and cook then hire one. Love and relationships are about doing for each other. If you want a plaything then go and get some. Shit man plenty of that out there. You really need to grow up (not taking a shot at you bro) in so much as your attitude towards having a real woman in your life. Again it is about careing for and taking care of each others' business in and out of the bedroom.

If all you want is variety then I'm afraid you need to stay single but be honest with the women you are with. DO not lead them on to thinking that something meaningful and long term is going to happen. Really is that simple!!

 

[TeknoViking]

I believe some people arent met to be married. I have buddies that will never settlle down.

 

[Marine0811]

Bro? If all you want is a maid and cook then hire one. Love and relationships are about doing for each other. If you want a plaything then go and get some. Shit man plenty of that out there. You really need to grow up (not taking a shot at you bro) in so much as your attitude towards having a real woman in your life. Again it is about careing for and taking care of each others' business in and out of the bedroom.

If all you want is variety then I'm afraid you need to stay single but be honest with the women you are with. DO not lead them on to thinking that something meaningful and long term is going to happen. Really is that simple!!

This is sound advice mate not to tell you how to TCB but old fella seems to have it sorted out, rite style

 

[aolsux00]

I've done a lot of success coaching, one on one, and group coaching. One of the biggest thing I've taken away is this: Take a look at your results and see if they are working for you... From what you make it sound like, being married isn't working for you. And I don't think things will change much with time. I think the problem is a little deeper than that. I think you should sit down with someone and figure out why you keep jumping from one girl to another. I would sit down with a professional and figure out what causes you to keep going from one girl to another. The problem is much deeper than just thinking "the grass is greener on the other side" in my opinion. Its going to cost you a lot less time and money to do this then to have another divorce.

 

[gin]

Because i have noticed a lot of women wont devote themselves to taking care of you (physically as in cooking for you, doing your laundry and cleaning etc etc) unless they see you are 100 percent exclusive to them. Which is fine because i never cheat on anyone but i just get bored and want to leave them eventually.

The way you are thinking here is a problem.
You rush deeper into a relationship assuming it will be better.
Or the girl rushes you saying: well honey I'm all yours but now I wan't ALL of you
If it is the right girl for you she would die for you from day one.
The right girl will not think about getting married, have kids and then maybe get to know eachother.
It is kind of hard to explain what I wanna say but slow down, do not make promisses you are not sure of, follow your feelings. Don't do things you don't wanna do for others. The right girl is out there for you, you just have to stop looking for it, it will come to you.
For now just enjoy being single with your options open, don't lie to girls, tell them exactly what you think of the relationship you are in with them and take it from there. If you feel guilty of hurting their feelings when you tell them you only like the plowing part, don't. You would hurt them more later on into the relationship.

 

[gin]

Same thing here

Take it from some of us fella's who have been married away.....your too young! I got married at 25....10 years ago....and the roughest years were when I was in my 20's. When your in your 20's, you still want some freedom and to party. Wait till your in your 30's....or on your death bed

I got married at 17, husband become an alcoholic and abusive, I got divorced a year later from the dude and now I'm in a relationship with an amazing guy for the past 7 years with no problems. We are engaged for the past 3 years and trust me, marriage is not on my mind.
When the time is right I might get married again, but why ruin what I have now with a piece of paper.
LISTEN PEOPLE! DO NOT RUSH INTO MARRIAGE!!!

 

[mrs bapper]

Try just being single!!

Its sounds like you need to take time out to mature a bit more..Don't take me the wrong way but us women don't like to be with guys that want a woman to be like a mother to them..Deafo not a good basis for a relationship!..This is only in my opinion wat I think you should do bro!