Roid rage or legit anger?

Blitzkrieg · May 28, 2007

Long story short: my best bud and I were supposed to get together last night. 10pm I ask him if he wants to drive up to the club, he tells me no and that he's going to bed. At 1:30am he calls me on his way home from the club. Since I was half asleep I didn't bring it up then, but I sent a text message later telling him if that if he wanted to go out alone that's fine but should have told me instead of lying to me. Now he's not answering his phone. Am I just raged up or am I legit in being totally pissed off that he lied to me and is now avoiding me?

Amazon Doll · May 29, 2007

You have the right to be pissed, but gear can make the feelings more intense and take longer to go away.

rl3355 · May 29, 2007

hmmm....why did he blow you off like that? Ya, I'd be pissed and he should have said something to you. I hope he's not a good friend. You know the saying, "who needs enemies with friends like this."

BOOMSHAKER · May 29, 2007

BK,, I would much rather a person be straight up from the begining then be a liar in the end! You feelings are justified in this matter!

oldfella · May 29, 2007

Hey blitz, You have the right to be pissed and upset. No it's not the juice.. How far you take it will then determine what's real and what's juice. For the record bro, I believe "ROID RAGE" is puerly a psychological condition brought on by one's loss of emotional control. Anger can be controlled. Not suppressed but controlled. You should let your feelings be known. Being stood up like that and then lied to hurts bro, male or female. We all have feelings and that sort of thing is not necessary. Tell him how you feel and then it's up to you what the next move is and how far your anger goes. Good friends do not do this sort of thing to each other, just my take!!

OuchThatHurts · May 29, 2007

Sort of depends here Blitz on what kind of friend he is. Some of my jackass friends will say "I'm tired, I'm going to bed" at 10PM, but at 12, they change their mind. Usually if I'm already out it's "Hey, weren't you going to bed?" and all is fine. But these are my friends that never commit to anything or make decisions so I just go and if they show, they show, and if they don't, I hide in their shrubbery and smack 'em with a lead pipe. Okay, don't do that last part but if I were you, I'd confront it openly and just say "Wtf?!?"

Either way, don't just sit and do a slow burn because you will find yourself getting enraged and then you break red on the guy and feel bad later.

Nytol · May 29, 2007

I'd be pissed off too.

Blitzkrieg · May 29, 2007

Thanks guys. It's good to know I'm not over reacting. I have friends that flake out all the time, but this is someone that's supposed to be my best friend and he lied about it (and then called me later so didn't even have the decency to cover his tracks) and is now avoiding me so I it's different than my other dumbass friends LOL.

oldfella, that's what I thought too. I thought maybe I was being unrealistic in my expectations. Thanks for confirming that I'm not.

And OTH: I'll give you 3 guesses who it is

That being said can I use your lead pipe idea?

Kaiser · May 29, 2007

Unless it's a spouse or lover, forget about it. It doesn't really matter as you will see your friends separate more and more over the years. Be happy by yourself first and your friends will be more intrigued to hang out. But again, don't put any weight on the fact unless it's a spouse or lover.

lex57 · May 29, 2007

i would take it as a compliment...think about it. he probably has a harder time picking up girls with you around. maybe he knows if hes out by himself he wont have to compete with you.

oldfella · May 29, 2007

Blitzkrieg said:
Thanks guys. It's good to know I'm not over reacting. I have friends that flake out all the time, but this is someone that's supposed to be my best friend and he lied about it (and then called me later so didn't even have the decency to cover his tracks) and is now avoiding me so I it's different than my other dumbass friends LOL.

oldfella, that's what I thought too. I thought maybe I was being unrealistic in my expectations. Thanks for confirming that I'm not.

And OTH: I'll give you 3 guesses who it is That being said can I use your lead pipe idea?

Blitz, all to happy to give you a hand bro. It's a tough situation and I like what Kaiser had to say BTW. Be happy with you and who you are. Hey man we are all the same inside. We all have feelings and do not appreciate anyone taking those fellings for granted. So get over it and move on. What this has done is possilbly confirm any doubts you may have had about his friendship. Do not dwell on it. Say your piece and leave it there!!

OuchThatHurts · May 29, 2007

Blitzkrieg said:
And OTH: I'll give you 3 guesses who it is That being said can I use your lead pipe idea?

Oh it's that guy? Well no wonder. You are being unrealistic and you know it. When are you going to decide to stop chasing something that you can't have? Here's one of my favorite quotes:

"Men have hitherto treated women (or in this case, men) like birds which have strayed down to them from the heights: as something more delicate, more fragile, more savage, stranger, sweeter, soulful—but as something which has to be caged up so that it shall not fly away." (Nietzsche)

Unfortunately though, people can't be kept in cages and neither should you be.

I'm sometimes wrong but I'm thinking there will be no end to the hurt and anxiety, and eventually anger from this situation. I chased after a girl when I was much younger for over a year. A whole year of my life. Then, after realizing the obvious truth that we were never to be together, I ended up hating, in fact, despising her. It's 20 years later but honestly, I still get a little angry every time I think about her. Angry at myself, not her.

He is what he is. You have no right to get angry at him because you know exactly what he's all about. You should get angry at yourself for repeatedly putting yourself back in situations that end up hurting you. What are you going to do now?

Northwatch619 · May 29, 2007

Hey Blitzkrieg,

Good one Lex57 ! With the size of your arms Blitz I think I’d run and hide too…lol
I believe, to be somewhat objective here one would have to ask if you told him you weren’t going out after his comment of going to bed. Unknowingly, perhaps he decided you might be having too much fun and he’d miss out on it, if he didn’t go out after all.
From a look at your aviator, the size of your arms would drive many guys into hiding, after receiving a “what the heck” txtmessg. LOL Only you know the truth Bud, because you know him well. Don’t give up on good friendships Blitz there’s many others out here that gladly give a true friendship its respect; it’s just harder when you get older to find the time to make it work.
NW

Blitzkrieg · May 30, 2007

OuchThatHurts said:
What are you going to do now?

Use that lead pipe on myself?

Blitzkrieg · May 31, 2007

Nevermind... our friendship is officially over as of today. It hurts like hell right now, but it's for the best. Dude was my bro, and today he sent me an email basically telling me to fuck off. I don't think we're reconciling at this point.

oldfella · May 31, 2007

Blitzkrieg said:
Nevermind... our friendship is officially over as of today. It hurts like hell right now, but it's for the best. Dude was my bro, and today he sent me an email basically telling me to fuck off. I don't think we're reconciling at this point.

Hey blitz, that's not good news but at least you know where you stand! The hurt will subside, the pain will ease but you are still the person you were before all this shit. Just get into your groove man and make shit happen. Do what makes you happy and fuck the rest! Like Kaiser said, they will want to know what the hell you are so happy about. You can tell them "cause I have no emtional baggage". That'll send them into a spin. You know what I am talking about!! I feel your pain bro. Losing anyone close to you for whatever reason is hard. It will open new doors for you though!!

Amazon Doll · May 31, 2007

sorry about this

OuchThatHurts · May 31, 2007

Blitzkrieg said:
Nevermind... our friendship is officially over as of today. It hurts like hell right now, but it's for the best. Dude was my bro, and today he sent me an email basically telling me to fuck off. I don't think we're reconciling at this point.

Tell me why you believe it's for the best. I think I know but I'd still like to hear you say it.

Blitzkrieg · May 31, 2007

Thanks big guy. I appreciate that. It's true, this will free me up a lot. Things have been rough and had me stressed for a couple of months now, so it's like a weight lifted off my shoulders.

oldfella said:
Hey blitz, that's not good news but at least you know where you stand! The hurt will subside, the pain will ease but you are still the person you were before all this shit. Just get into your groove man and make shit happen. Do what makes you happy and fuck the rest! Like Kaiser said, they will want to know what the hell you are so happy about. You can tell them "cause I have no emtional baggage". That'll send them into a spin. You know what I am talking about!! I feel your pain bro. Losing anyone close to you for whatever reason is hard. It will open new doors for you though!!