I feel your pain ......I really do and I think you really are missing some things in your life that you could really find if you chose to let go of hurt and put in the work .....I hope live out your life happy and in peace ..I so mean that ....simplicity is the key to brilliance ....btw Albert E said that..lol.....and you have lived, but what did one thing you shared have to do with my perspective and knowledge of the adult business ? { because not one thing there involves anything in that arena ] You came here saying I was judging T.o.m. , which I wasn't[ which open stated from the get go ] ....then you claim that prostitution is just a business and most girls aren't forced ,which is so false it is sad .[ do your research , girls around the world everywhere are forced into the sex trade every single day by the thousands ......there are many organizations battling this issue ....so you attack my view when I have spent 16 yrs on the inside on various levels in areas of that scene[ and yes, there are good people , a few happy people that live in this world ......and I am one of them .but it rare ..about like seeing a unicorn , but they do exist, you are very correct ] ....and I spent 3000 hours working with addicts , girls with eating disorders , and people that were suicidal in grad school and have tried to help people the last 16 yrs be better happier people while battling the odds ....for you to say your life and tragedies adds up to anything that gives you real perspective of whether or not prostitution was victim less or not is rather interesting to say the least .......You felt a need to come on this thread .....to defend TOM , people placing judgment[ which you felt the need to post in my thread even though I clearly said he was his own man and I respect his choices ] ,and your perspective of prostitution , open marriage [ have you been in the scene ? Seen the realities , not the bullshit people advertise to make it ok to themselves ?I have and been tied to people that own some of the largest swingers clubs in ca for many yrs .Ever seen addicts justify there drug use and life ? They make it seem so great don't they ? Must read and watch alot of tv ] and you need to defend TOM actions for his age ......something I never once mentioned as an issue ,because to me age is only a number .....but your character is a choice !!!!
So take a look at your post , then look at what you used to back up your views ? What does that have to do with my thread on marriage ? Zero ....if you wanted to defend tom , prostitution, open marriage , passing the buck on personal responsibility then you could have started your own thread correct ? That is what I did right ? Not very respectful imo eyes , but to each his own ....but next time you disrupt a positive thread, maybe know at least know what you are calling people out on and know what you really are speaking on ......JEEZ .....when you posted your tragedies ...I smiled and thought perspective sure is ones own truth .....other than failing a marriage or being cheated on,or having a heart attack [ although I have saved someone that had one and seen several die as well ] ......everything you mentioned are things I see or experienced in a in sometimes weeks time [and I have sat autopsies because one of the managers here worker for the medical examiner ...big wow they are dead ....it is just gross ,and not fun ....nothing to scar anybody] .....I live in a world that is a little more harsh than that ,and ask the guys on the board that know me in real life . I have seen ,done ,or had to do some pretty horrible shit ....and I am so not exaggerating ...but I don't want a medal ....that is the past ...I made the choices to be where I was or do what I did .....all I can do is not let affect who I am today , try to be better and smarter everyday , and to continue to help , support , and educate others ......I bet when my friends in real life read your post , they will smile , and say if the guy only knew who is talking to ....lol ......I am sorry for all you have been through .....because your pain is all that you can experience or care about because of the hurt you carry in you .
I guess I am just amazed you brought your posts here and attitude based on ego , judgement , and hurt here in such a positive thread when you really are a helpful person that is very bright . I am sorry marriage doesn't make you happy and full fill like you had hoped ......most people fail in marriage ....because like you, they decide other things are more important to them . The whole point of this thread that you seemed not grasp, is that was your relationship , family , and the ability to give love is the most important thing you can have .......and that if you don't make that your number one priority everyday and work on it ......then you will lose you what you have plain and simple .....If you think money makes you happy, then boy I feel bad for you at the end of your life .[ and I think you have said your self that you may only have like 5 yrs left ? ] Because money give you choices and does make things easier .....but it doesn't love , connect , heal , or care about you[ you must not no many famous people huh?] ....sorry pal , if you haven't learned from your first marriage ,then expect similar results .....women need love , affection , attention everyday for them not to disconnect ,they need to feel most important and accepted for who they are .....when they are not, they find someone else that makes them feel that way eventually ....if you can't see that .....your choice .....your perspective ....but this thread was about appreciating what you have ....my envy of happy long term relationships and the my respect for the work that they take ....and my reminder of what I have learned , seen , and failed at so my friends here stay aware of the effort it takes so they never lose the blessing that they have .........And Maldorf ...., you honestly ruined the great positive flow here and the message of the thread here by posting something that had nothing to do with this what so ever ......you could have even posted your thoughts on life support and I would have just read what you had to say ......But sorry pal .....if you don't see your mistake here ......oh well .....on ward and upward .....I am done posting on this thread as it has been destroyed ......to infinity and beyond ....I am out !!!!