Being bigger equals more fights?

[carbs]

I’m trying to see if this is all in my head or, if some of you guys that have been bigger longer experience this. I have found that the bigger I’ve gotten the more I have had other men size me up or instigate a fight. Whether it be in a parking lot randomly as I’m getting out of the car , to the valet in front of a hotel, to a guy at the gym seeming to go out of his way to shoulder check me. I’m a pretty low key and kind of shy person, I really mind my business. The only thing that’s been different in my life as this has gotten more frequent is me being larger and not being able to hide my physique as well with clothing.

Is this just me? Let me know if you guys have felt this way as well. There’s some big dudes in this forum so I’m sure you guys have stories.

facts.

When I was young and a lot bigger at 6'4 at a bar I would would always have dickheads size me up and want to fight. It was usually short, angry, drunk dudes.

Now I'm old and not big. Doesn't happen.

 

[headtrainer]

I’m trying to see if this is all in my head or, if some of you guys that have been bigger longer experience this. I have found that the bigger I’ve gotten the more I have had other men size me up or instigate a fight. Whether it be in a parking lot randomly as I’m getting out of the car , to the valet in front of a hotel, to a guy at the gym seeming to go out of his way to shoulder check me. I’m a pretty low key and kind of shy person, I really mind my business. The only thing that’s been different in my life as this has gotten more frequent is me being larger and not being able to hide my physique as well with clothing.

Is this just me? Let me know if you guys have felt this way as well. There’s some big dudes in this forum so I’m sure you guys have stories.

It’s been just the opposite for me. I have had some big guys walk up and tell me they wouldn’t want to fight me. And some of the local police officers at my gym said they wouldn’t even try fighting me. Instead they would taser me. I think a lot of times it has to do with how others see you. If you are kind and have a good attitude most people are not going to want to fight you. On the contrary, if you come across as someone with a bad attitude, you’ll attract others with bad attitudes.

 

[Cinder]

Which one are you?

Huh? Lol.
Well we know which one you might be with an odd response like that after reading that those guys think "we're clowns"

 

[3BILLS]

Huh? Lol.
Well we know which one you might be with an odd response like that after reading that those guys think "we're clowns"

Well you said you haven't worked out for 3 years so not sure how big you are ?

And you hate on hgh head

 

[Samson250]

And you hate on hgh head

Who hates on @slesh ? Lol

 

[3BILLS]

Who hates on @slesh ? Lol

Question is who doesn't

 

[Cinder]

Well you said you haven't worked out for 3 years so not sure how big you are ?

And you hate on hgh head

Did I say I haven't worked out in 3 years?
That was for my brother but yes it looked like it was about me. I gotcha...
And lol I don't like the look of a huge head/face is all.

 

[slesh]

Who hates on @slesh ? Lol

Question is who doesn't

I’m an acquired taste

 

[cage99]

Never have anyone size me up or challenge me, maybe it’s just how I carry myself. I don’t strut around like I’m top dog and act like everyone else. If anything I just get respect and people asking me about workouts or making jokes “did you get bit by something? You’re swollen up!”
“Hey man lay off the pinning/injecting for a little bit” (I’ve no shit gotten that one a few times)

I’m sure some guys can relate but every time I leave my house I have an interaction based on my body. Mainly from older black men hyping me up
Or Indian gas station owners “Wow my friend, NICE BODY” (my 12 year old daughter burst out laughing at that one)

My favorite one was I was going through a self checkout line in a crowded grocery store, and the worker overseeing yelled out to me “Hey man!! You can’t be waving those guns around here!”
Everyone looked over at me in horror. Then that dude hit a double bicep

Big city/rougher part of town too and was definitely interpreted differently

lol… was in Home Depot yesterday and some older guy walks past with his crew. The older guy says look fellas that man right there is allergic to iron. I look over at him like what in the absolute fuck is that supposed to mean??? He then hit his punch line….. “cause he’s all swolled the fuck up”… SMH… All I could do was chuckle and walk away… Guy was creative, I’ll give him that!

Cage

 

[BLKGUY2006]

lol… was in Home Depot yesterday and some older guy walks past with his crew. The older guy says look fellas that man right there is allergic to iron. I look over at him like what in the absolute fuck is that supposed to mean??? He then hit his punch line….. “cause he’s all swolled the fuck up”… SMH… All I could do was chuckle and walk away… Guy was creative, I’ll give him that!

Cage

lol that is certainly a good one!!!!!

 

[Sectør]

I remember the first time I trained with @Muay Thai

I had just gotten to the gym, and he was already training. I waved at him, he casually nodded and threw up the peace sign.

Two people in the corner of the gym saw the gesture and thought he threw up a gang sign and proceeded to try to jump him. Before I could even get to him he already had one guy out cold on the floor, and the other guy in a rear naked choke, before others jumped in to break up the fight.

We then had the mostly gnarly chest day on record

 

[slesh]

I remember the first time I trained with @Muay Thai

I had just gotten to the gym, and he was already training. I waved at him, he casually nodded and threw up the peace sign.

Two people in the corner of the gym saw the gesture and thought he threw up a gang sign and proceeded to try to jump him. Before I could even get to him he already had one guy out cold on the floor, and the other guy in a rear naked choke, before others jumped in to break up the fight.

We then had the mostly gnarly chest day on record

Lol sounds about right. Don’t fuck with my dude MT.

 

[johnjuanb1]

After I had my knee destroyed in a fight, quadriceps tendon torn directly off the patella which only occurs in 1% of quad tendon tears, it was reattached with titanium sutures drilled through 3 holes in the patella. A 10 year old girl could injure it just by grabbing and pushing me. My ACL is still detached so I have no side to side support. I was the only bouncer in a bar that was full of college kids and Hell’s Angels bikers. I needed the money. I was homeless living in my car. No way in hell could I fight so I took a ton of roids and got to my biggest size ever at 265Lbs. Never once did anyone start a fight until the day I quit. The night I quit there was an all out brawl with chairs flying.
My theory was to get so big and intimidating nobody would mess with me. Plus I went out of my way to get to know the most dangerous guys there which was very smart.

 

[Performance Based]

Going to watch my words here, but sincerely….

As I embarked in my bodybuilding journey I was suffering from severe mental health issues trying to build some self worth. I was immensely insecure due to my childhood despite having a career that fostered my ego to an extreme.

I found problems with others under nearly every stone.


Speaking sincerely no one skilled in violence looks at bodybuilders as threats or capable of inflicting damage. There is no useful athleticism or transient skill that that one has from purely bodybuilding. Bodybuilders are more artists than athletes.

If you are having problems with others I would evaluate sincerely your mental health (we all ebb and flow - please don’t think I’m calling anyone crazy here) and the places you spend time.

 

[A50#]

I don't know where u guys are all from but no one fights around here anymore. Unfortunately disagreements and arguments turn straight into gun play. Better not honk your horn, make hand gestures or or get aggressive with anyone unless u want shot.

 

[Green Miles]

I never cared but I always carry, so it doesn't matter at all!
It also depends on how you carry yourself! Some guys walk around like they are looking for trouble! I always look mad even when I'm not lol
It's a cultural thing!

 

[Tomgrass]

I almost never had a problems like 2 fights in a last 20 years. Almost everybody think i look scary and nobody wants to fuck with me. I have been told unlimited amount of time that i look very intimidating. Easy life for me. Fuck need to edit it - not easy i have to work hard to convince people i dont want to kill them and i am a very nice guy.

 

[hevi-head]

Going to watch my words here, but sincerely….



Speaking sincerely no one skilled in violence looks at bodybuilders as threats or capable of inflicting damage. There is no useful athleticism or transient skill that that one has from purely bodybuilding. Bodybuilders are more artists than athletes.

VERY true but most of the general public thinks the opposite. I get comments about it and just usually try to blow it off and change the subject. As kids we fought all the time in the neighborhood growing up. It was a different era then as opposed to now (I’m 55) and have never trained to fight in my life and avoid it at almost all costs. It’s been years

 

[juggy38]

I’ve commented on this before…

While in college I was 5-10 241-245lbs during ball season. Pretty fucking big. I didn’t go out a whole lot, but when I did I’d always get dudes come up and do the typical “bro awe”. No fuckery.

After college I started training BJJ/MMA pretty seriously (as serious as you could with a 40h week job)

As I started competing, I kept moving down weight classes in BJJ eventually landing on 207.5 as a happy place, and fought at 185lbs (this was hell on earth to beat the scale)

As I evolved into a 205-210lb “fighter” body….i did find run ins with fuckheads increase on nights out.

You just gotta walk away. Best case scenario you hit him and leave. Highly unlikely. Break your 4th metatarsal on his eye socket while in Destin Florida? Much more likely. And/or jail

 

[Aikman56]

it's the other way around - the bigger I am, the nicer everyone around me is

Same here…In fact, I can’t remember the last time that I was in a confrontational situation (outside of letting a few store employees know that I wouldn’t be wearing a face rag during C*vid and making sure they knew they weren’t going to be able to make me) of any kind.

Years ago, when I was bouncing, lots of little drunk dudes wanted to test me, but I don’ think that really counts.