Yeah! My wife is the only one close to me that’s ever seen me without a shirt on..I don’t take pictures, and I only wear long sleeve shirts..the highest body fat % I’ve been in probably my whole adult life around 13%..don’t know where it’s came from
Its been said, we all have this to some extent. Maybe not when we started, but if you stick with it long enough you will develop some dysmorphia to some extent. As humans we are social qualifiers and will unconsciously compare ourselves to others at times. I manage it well and am realistic, but still creeps up now and then.
It’s amazing how often this happens!I always remember back in the day at the grocery getting comments from old dudes being like “when I was your age I looked just like you” and remember saying in my head “bitch, no one looked like this in 1960”hahaha.
Same here. I had tits before the girls did… That really messes with your head! Every single day for me is throwing another shovel of dirt on that fat kid‘s grave.So I believe its two factors:
First - I obviously have some form of PTSD from being a chubby fuck for several years. So any break in diet or not going to the gym for a few days just absolutely fucks with my head and makes me feel like I’m 17 again.
So I guess that’s one place that my life is a completely different experience.My wife is the same way. Don’t get me wrong she’s supportive as can be, but she doesn’t get it nor does she care to hear about it that often.
I would venture to say it’s why a lot of us are on here talking about our physique and bodybuilding.
Nobody in your life wants to hear about this shit and even if they did, they certainly don’t understand it. LOL
civilianGive me a better word/phrase and I’ll gladly use it
I feel like the young guys in the gym in 2024 NEED some sort of body dysmorphia...or maybe they have it in reverse.
Far too many small kids who have put 0 time in flexing and THINKING they look like classic competitors when they are fucking light years away.
I like the good ole days of thinking you looked like kinda shit no matter what lol.
Oh she’s definitely in it with me. My least favorite words from her are “don’t you have to eat a meal”. She holds me to my schedule better than I do on eating.So I guess that’s one place that my life is a completely different experience.
My wife is in it with me 100%.
My parents have been supportive from the first time I ever touched a weight in high school, and apart from some out of state competitions, neither of them have ever missed a contest. I remember in college when people still carried pictures in their wallet, the pictures that my parents carried of me to show their friends were always competition pictures.
As far as my coworkers, they all think it’s really cool, and always come to me with exercise and nutrition questions. I’m in medical sales, so when even the doctors that I call on show interest, it really makes things fun, and gives an added dimension that sets me apart from other sales professionals that call on them.. When I do an educational lunch or dinner, they all know why I bring my own food, and are always interested in the outcomes of competitions.
I think i’m really fortunate in that regard.
I always remember back in the day at the grocery getting comments from old dudes being like “when I was your age I looked just like you” and remember saying in my head “bitch, no one looked like this in 1960”hahaha.
So I guess that’s one place that my life is a completely different experience.
My wife is in it with me 100%.
My parents have been supportive from the first time I ever touched a weight in high school, and apart from some out of state competitions, neither of them have ever missed a contest. I remember in college when people still carried pictures in their wallet, the pictures that my parents carried of me to show their friends were always competition pictures.
As far as my coworkers, they all think it’s really cool, and always come to me with exercise and nutrition questions. I’m in medical sales, so when even the doctors that I call on show interest, it really makes things fun, and gives an added dimension that sets me apart from other sales professionals that call on them.. When I do an educational lunch or dinner, they all know why I bring my own food, and are always interested in the outcomes of competitions.
I think i’m really fortunate in that regard.
Ok so I’m not the only one who does NOT understand the sewing thing.You have a keeper dudeee.
My wife is innn it with me and supports me 100%. But she also isn't interested in it in general.
Once every month she'll ask me how my coach is and what "the plan is." But thats just to stay updated lol
Like bbxtreme and w8lift mentioned, i get far better questions from random people at the grocery store, work conferences, gym, etc than i do from my wife haha.
She'll always hype me up and give me too notes and tell me im looking great. But she's into sewing right now . I dont give 2 shits about sewing but ill always ask her what her next project is and pay attention because SHE loves it...lol similar i guess.
What ive noticed lately, and im sure it happens to you guys — places like thisss are the only places we can kinda talk about life and what's normal to us. We like all the subjects, we can talk about this shit for hours and its most likely our only outlet unless we have some hardcore BBing friends very close to us. SO when someone has a general question for me and im like on a work trip, i will try to keep it short. We enjoy talking about this. But im also very cognizant that people who want to talk about themselves and their own hobbies too much are the worst. They have 0 self awareness and are douches. I feel like im very good and keeping it short, deflecting it to someone else and asking about their hobbies/career/family. ESPECIALLY since my career is not fitness related, i dont want to box myself in as some dude who ONLY wants to talk about the gym and eating and competing is like. So i'll give answer their question relatively quickly and ask about their life.
That is very true! My wife loved me the same when i was an obese 280 lbs. a couple of years ago compared to a relatively lean 230 lbs. today. But I will say I have noticed a significant increase in bedroom activities since I’ve gotten in better shape! And she has developed this strange fascination with smacking/grabbing my ass now that it is a lot harder. LolI’ve figured out over the years who likes to hear about your physique the LEAST.
The gfs, and wives.
Unless they’re full tilt in it with you, they could not give less of a fuck if you’re a soft 250 or hard as nails 275 (drawing from my own life here).
Even though the above comparison is HUGE in our world, they just don’t care.
Yeah! My wife is the only one close to me that’s ever seen me without a shirt on..I don’t take pictures, and I only wear long sleeve shirts..the highest body fat % I’ve been in probably my whole adult life around 13%..don’t know where it’s came from
Off the shelf pants I need to get pants that are way to big in the waist to fit properly. I have to wear a tight belt till I have the waist tailored in.For me it’s always the clothes. If you need confirmation look there.
It’s annoying as hell. I went to an event last night and had zero dress pants that fit. So athletic tailored jeans it was.
If you ever second guess how big or small you are look to your clothes. They never lie.
This is me, I can't see what they see.But that’s the thing - it’s not about caring what other people think. Body dysmorphia is how you think about and view yourself. We are our own harshest critics. I, as I’m sure plenty of other members here, get compliments all the time from friends, family and randoms. Doesn’t stop me from shitting on myself.
Ok so I’m not the only one who does NOT understand the sewing thing.
My wife is into this recently and to me it’s the most boring drawn out hobby in the world, but then again so is bodybuilding in her defense. But I do my best to sit there and listen to her try to explain it all to me. Lol
For jeans try Duluth Trading Company ballroom double flex - if they fit my legs they'll fit anyone's. Not sure if they have them in pants.Off the shelf pants I need to get pants that are way to big in the waist to fit properly. I have to wear a tight belt till I have the waist tailored in.
As another guy in the corporate world (big bank) I'm very much the same. My campus has over 5,000 employees and I can't count how many people have sought me out just to meet me in person because they heard I'm the jacked guy.ESPECIALLY since my career is not fitness related, i dont want to box myself in as some dude who ONLY wants to talk about the gym and eating and competing is like. So i'll give answer their question relatively quickly and ask about their life.