This isn't about getting your dick wet, it's about a man straying from his wife because there is something lacking at home, and yes, communication is key when you think your needs aren't being met, no matter what they are. but I communicated with my wife and nothing changed. I've worked at the same strip club for 9 years and have been tempted MANY times by women who wanted to hook up with me, but I refused. BUT, one day, this one woman came along and it there was an instant attraction, sexual yes, but much more that just that. i'm not saying not to work at your marriage, you have to give it a chance to turn things around, but sometimes, it's just not possible no matter what we promise someone. my first wife left me for another man 15 years ago. was I hurt? absolutely! but you know what, she's happily married with 2 beautiful daughters, I'd much rather see her happy with him than miserable with me.