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While I understand that the title might be a bit misleading, especially in a bodybuilding forum,
but . . . with some of the recent topics, picking a trainer, stupid parents, etc., I could not help
but being reminded of a passage I recently read in a book by Elizabeth Gilbert called The Last
American Man. It’s a biography of Eustace Conway. He is a fascinating person, and the book
is pretty good too. Here she attempts to explain some of the problems with today’s youths.
“ "You must make yourself very small," she explained, as if that's such a simple thing to do.
It's not at all simple, though. Not many people can subdue their egos. The talent for submission
is especially hard for modern American kids, who are raised in a culture that has taught them
from infancy that their every desire is vital and sacred. Their parents, their teachers, their leaders,
their media, have always asked them, "What do you want?" I used to see this when I was a diner
waitress, of all things. Parents would interrupt ordering food for the entire table to hover around
their toddler and ask, "What do you want, honey?" And they'd stare moon-eyed at the child,
waiting desperately for the answer. Oh my God, what will he say? What does he want?
The world holds its breath! Eustace Conway is right on target when he says parents did not give
their children this kind of power a hundred years ago. Or even fifty years ago. I myself can
declare with all honesty that on the rare occasions when my mother and her six Midwestern-
farm siblings ate in restaurants as children, if any of them had dared to make a personal demand
of their father ... well, they just wouldn't have.
But Americans are raised differently now. And the "What do you want, honey?" culture has created
the kids who are flocking to Eustace today. They undergo enormous shock when they quickly discover
that he doesn't give a shit what they want. And between 85 and 90 percent of them can't handle that.”
but . . . with some of the recent topics, picking a trainer, stupid parents, etc., I could not help
but being reminded of a passage I recently read in a book by Elizabeth Gilbert called The Last
American Man. It’s a biography of Eustace Conway. He is a fascinating person, and the book
is pretty good too. Here she attempts to explain some of the problems with today’s youths.
“ "You must make yourself very small," she explained, as if that's such a simple thing to do.
It's not at all simple, though. Not many people can subdue their egos. The talent for submission
is especially hard for modern American kids, who are raised in a culture that has taught them
from infancy that their every desire is vital and sacred. Their parents, their teachers, their leaders,
their media, have always asked them, "What do you want?" I used to see this when I was a diner
waitress, of all things. Parents would interrupt ordering food for the entire table to hover around
their toddler and ask, "What do you want, honey?" And they'd stare moon-eyed at the child,
waiting desperately for the answer. Oh my God, what will he say? What does he want?
The world holds its breath! Eustace Conway is right on target when he says parents did not give
their children this kind of power a hundred years ago. Or even fifty years ago. I myself can
declare with all honesty that on the rare occasions when my mother and her six Midwestern-
farm siblings ate in restaurants as children, if any of them had dared to make a personal demand
of their father ... well, they just wouldn't have.
But Americans are raised differently now. And the "What do you want, honey?" culture has created
the kids who are flocking to Eustace today. They undergo enormous shock when they quickly discover
that he doesn't give a shit what they want. And between 85 and 90 percent of them can't handle that.”