O/T need advice from mature guys about marriage.

[3BILLS]

I just read the OP but,

I’ve been married for almost ten years. I was given an ultimatum too. I still see tons of other women I want to fuck, but as a man I made a choice and chose to marry my wife and we both put effort into growing our marriage. I make a conscious choice to be a husband every day. Seems like you’re afraid you’ll miss out on opportunities or options, but at a certain point, and this is with everything in life, you have to commit or don’t. If you’re in grief without her maybe that’s a sign. Also know marriage is the beginning, not the end

Respect

 

[3BILLS]

At the end of the day your the only person that really knows what to do...

Go with your gut... everyone of us has are different stories.

Weither it's me , st114 or Lil slice we all chose are own paths.

If it ends up fucked then you learn from it and move on..

Just don't delete your username here

 

[Oldwhitedude]

At some point you have to move on to new phases in life.

Can totally understand the feelings of missing out but the body won't stop aging and if you have the potential for a good life with this woman, take it. You'll be 50 sooner than you think and priorities for people change.

Guys (and girls) think when they're 50 and ready to settle down there's gonna be a great pool of options. There isn't, just a lot of people with a lot of baggage.

I'm happily married so I'm biased but there you go.

 

[MAD_SCIENTIST]

I'm enjoying this thread.
Pearls of wisdom on some of the replies.
Every time someone post about what their Ex did, and they refer her to the "C" word, I always giggle.
I'll follow this thread because of the replies.


MS

 

[3BILLS]

I'm enjoying this thread.
Pearls of wisdom on some of the replies.
Every time someone post about what their Ex did, and they refer her to the "C" word, I always giggle.
I'll follow this thread because of the replies.


MS

Always wondered

When you give your big O face emoji

Is it a good or bad thing

 

[alfresco]

Counselor and patient.

“There is this huge space between,” the patient told her therapist, “and it just keeps filling up with everything we don’t say to each other. What is that called?”

“Marriage,” came the reply.

 

[MachuFuku]

Not to be a dick, but if she can put up with your shit for 3 years, you might want to pull the trigger

Better shit or get off the pot bud. Don't hold her up if you think your going to suddenly be living like Dan Bilzerian.

 

[MachuFuku]

Not to be a dick, but if she can put up with your shit for 3 years, you might want to pull the trigger

Better shit or get off the pot bud. Don't hold her up if you think your going to suddenly be living like Dan Bilzerian.

Also, as a guy who had his first child at 39 and second at 42, being young enough to to enjoy your kids and be active with them is a real thing. I will be 60 at my daughter's HS Graduation. Just a number, I know. But I already find myself skipping on things due to my age. At Christmas, I was excited to do some ice skating with the kids. It took me 45 seconds to realize that an unskilled ice skater should NOT be learning at 50 lol.

 

[Keefs]

Getting divorced sucks. Mine was “easy” compared to most and still sucked. The only people who win are the attorneys.

My divorce is going on a year and a half now, and the attorneys involved are just playing mind games with us!!! Divorce fucking sucks! Especially when they’re assets to split and the attorneys see some money in it for themselves

 

[mexicanhombre]

Can totally understand the feelings of missing out but the body won't stop aging and if you have the potential for a good life with this woman, take it. You'll be 50 sooner than you think and priorities for people change.

Guys (and girls) think when they're 50 and ready to settle down there's gonna be a great pool of options. There isn't, just a lot of people with a lot of baggage.

I'm happily married so I'm biased but there you go.

Valuable advice. Very similar to what my dad and older folks tell me which is why I am giving this so much thought.

 

[mexicanhombre]

Not to be a dick, but if she can put up with your shit for 3 years, you might want to pull the trigger

Better shit or get off the pot bud. Don't hold her up if you think your going to suddenly be living like Dan Bilzerian.

Lol at suddenly living like Dan Bilzerian. Hahahah. Too funny.

 

[Aikman56]

If it’s been three years and you don’t WANT to marry her, you aren’t going to…certainly not from an ultimatum.
Beyond that, you’re questioning whether you might want to pursue other women?
Leave.
You're not being fair to her or yourself.

 

[mexicanhombre]

Any tips on how to disclose cialis use? I am embarrassed and don’t even know how to bring it up.

 

[Oldwhitedude]

Any tips on how to disclose cialis use? I am embarrassed and don’t even know how to bring it up.

I tell my wife everything I take.

I think if you have to disclose something embarrassing then tell her upfront that you find it embarrassing and then explain your reasons.

If you have good reasons, a good woman will understand.

 

[stackdizzy]

Any tips on how to disclose cialis use? I am embarrassed and don’t even know how to bring it up.

Accidentally leave some on the sink or somewhere she looks. Then just say oh yea i been taking that for years or whatever say this like its no big deal. if she gets weird about it just say hey I gotta keep up with you then just give her a kiss.

 

[MachuFuku]

I tell my wife everything I take.

I think if you have to disclose something embarrassing then tell her upfront that you find it embarrassing and then explain your reasons.

If you have good reasons, a good woman will understand.

For "endothelial" health. It is a "longevity" medication. No pun intended. For what its worth, my wife is loving the longevity it has provided me and her uterus.

 

[Jefe]

An ultimatum sounds bad but she is clearly communicating her needs to you. Mr Pickles sees this as good.

You have reservations. You realize this. Jefe sees this as good.

Time to split. So much better now than later.

Also, who the fuck used 2 names on PM? Weirdo.

 

[j2048b]

Check the laws of where you are… after a certwin amount of time of cohabitation… ur common law married by the way the state reads in certain states and they and u are eleigible for certwin rights towards each others items… if she makes more and u break up u can obtain money from her and vice versa…

Now i will say if i didnt meet the woman im with id prolly be single or married to another chick… cause being lonely sucks at times but

“Id rather be lonely & single than married and feel alone….”

Remember that quote..

Dont make a mistake by giving into an ultimatum…. U can still have kids and shit and not be married, BUT is she someone ud like to have kids with?

I have friends and family who are married with no kids DINKS (dual income no kids) and the live the best fucken lives ever… always have awesome vaca’s and always have a shit ton of money…

Marriage isnt for everyone…

 

[Babytrex]

I get that ultimatums are BS nobody wants to feel like they are forced. I did that with my first wife i didn't like the feeling but already had a daughter and couldn't see myself without my daughter. It ended poorly and my daughter i feel hates me. All yourself this question "can i see myself without her?" If the answer is no then i suggest you talk to her and actually tell her your concerns and worries. Maybe see a counselor they might be able to help you with this situation and figure out how to explain it to her. If she can't live with how you feel then she isn't taking you or your feelings into consideration. Don't do it for her do it for you! Just my 2 cents. Good luck

 

[Care1]

Sounds to me like you're both more interested in your own wants than the other person. I understand. I been there. I still have my own wants and she still has hers and we have the freedom to pursue them but if it comes down to it I will sacrifice my wants for her every time and she does alot even when she doesn't have to. I been married for 20 years. She wasn't even my type. Haha
Our wants weren't the same; I moved off the boat. Haha

The truth is: She was such a good person that I couldn't hurt her or leave her and hurt her without feeling like a pos. I'm not being a pos nor the pos in the relationship bc then I'm low man on the totem pole. Haha I stayed for ego! Hahaha No, I stayed bc I admired her and respected her and hated her for making me admire and respect her. Hahaha Nah, she was beautiful to me as a person- just effortlessly being her genuine love first naive self- but I had already done more shit than any man should. Meaning traveled around being infront of cameras, on pages, on stages, stations, in rings, from Newfoundland to SoCal and from Bonaire to Fargo, ND Banging 1-5 women a night for 8 years and 2-3 a week for alot of years off tour. So I had fought and fucked all over for a long long time before this woman stubbornly loved me inspite of my being a self serving person with hang ups and addictions.

So we both lessened self and grew our souls/spirits/life/awareness together...we became less selfs and more together as more than just our selfs- more loving beings and more able ro receive love too. It wasn't my goal- my goal was boats n hoes but her inner beauty and lovingness saved me really. Now I have great joy from her and our kids and my gratefulness. She floats around like a drunken butterfly on love but she doesn't float with her arthritic ass- lol! And and I'm the alpha guru- lol I have to be the guru part for my kids. Hahaha Whatever it takes bc it's about so much more than me. But it all started and stayed bc of her. Of course she was the last thing I wanted in my mind at the time. I just saw her. And I loved what I saw more than my own desires. I tried to have both for way too long but I guess love did it's thing young man. I wasn't ready.


Take what you can from this. I felt like I should share it for anyone to see what they can use. Or run from...whatever. haha