so gf says "no" to competitive bodybuilding

[Bigtiny8859]

Bigtiny......Below I copied one of the first posts I ever wrote on PM. It described my relationship with my girlfriend. I am a doctor and she is a nurse. We got married last week and she is one of the best things that has ever happened in my life. She even signed a prenup. I received a lot of grief from other members after this post but I can honestly say that I love her and she is a very special person. Our relationship grows stronger everyday.

I want to describe a normal day in my life and the treatment I receive from my girlfriend. I want everyone to use this as an example of how a woman should treat her man. She does all these things on top of her full time job as a nurse. Here is what she does for me:

- Cooks all my meals. I am not allowed in the kitchen for anything. If I want something I have to tell her and she has to get it. She than serves me my food.

- Goes to the grocery store and buys my food. She pays for it. She comes home and cuts all the meat, weights it on the scale, and individually packages each meal.

- Puts gas in my car. She pays for it.

- Washes my clothes.

- Cleans the house everyday.

- Pays for my steroids. I buy bulk powders overseas.

- When I come home from work it is either dinner or massage. If I choose dinner she serves me my food. If I choose massage we go up to the bed and she massages my head, neck, shoulders, back, arms, legs, and feet for one hour.

- Stretches my body before the gym and does physical therapy after my workout.

- Gives me a shower every night. When we are finished I step out of the shower, raise my arms, and she dries me off with the towel. After that she brushes my teeth. Next she goes into the bedroom and kneels down beside the bed to wait for me. When I come in I tell her what I want.

- Massages me every night until I fall asleep.

- Calls me "master" and likes to "obey" me. These are her own words.

If anyone reading this is thinking about getting married or thinks their relationship is not where it needs to be this should open your eyes. I asked her why she does all these things for me and her response was surprising. She knows my job and workout are both very important to me. She does everything to make these two things better for me. If I have a good day at work and good workout I will be happy, treat her nice, and overall have a better relationship. If she does not do these things for me I would be miserable at work and in the gym, come home unhappy, and our relationship would be bad. She understands that I need "physical" support during my day and this will make things easier for me and result in a better "emotional" relationship at home. She is Japanese and says this is her culture and has been passed down from generation to generation. She is hot too.

does she have a sister? fuck she makes my gf look like one of satans minions

 

[Bigtiny8859]

im starting to side w everyone else. the attitude controlling nature and just general bitchyness is just getting so old. theres just a list a mile long of things i can complain about, and if i dont sit here smiling the whole time she says "wtf is your problem today"

i think the only way i can end this is w a number change and a restraining order, seriously, shes broken into my house before when i tried to dump her. im just a really forgiving person. im a fucking idiot i shouldve dumped her after her first "flip out" after about a month of dating but just assumed it was the alcohol, i dont care how much alcohol i have unless u really fuck w me i am one happy ass drunk

 

[sammy555]

Echoing this... Dante made a great point about relationships on another forum when asked a about them....

Here is his post:

marriage/relationships: I have the best of wives but I definitely learned some lessons on the relationships before I found her.....mainly this - WHAT YOU SEE IN THE BEGINNING IS WHAT YOU WILL GET IN SPADES IN THE END.
What I mean by that is in virtually all cases of relationships (in my experiences) the warning signs you see with someone in the beginning isn't a blip on the radar but is a definite foreshadowing of things to come. Example: Jim and Jane have been dating for 8 weeks and things have been going pretty good...one night over dinner Jane totally loses her cool and starts screaming and throws her drink in Jims face.......Jim storms out and goes home.....Jane calls him the next morning and apologizes profusely telling him it was a mistake and isolated incident and wont happen again.....Jim agrees with that thinking and thinks any problem will go away with maturity because she is young still (24).....BOOM trust me on this one....this is going to come back in spades....that screaming and water thrown in Jims face is going to become full on rage episodes and lamps thrown years down the road. <----this is a hypothetical situation but Ive seen this too many times to count now that I am pretty steadfast in my opinion. I could probably write a novel of incedences regarding this as it pertains to me personally. And its in every facet of personality...if you see warning signs of "someone who needs reaffirmation of her looks from men" because of insecurity....guess what might happen to you a few years down the road.

This is no lie...this happened to me right before I met my wife. I hooked up with a real hot girl who really was looking at me as boyfriend husband material. Things were going really great until I saw something. She was on her best behavior 24 7 and then let her guard down one time and I saw her get so angry at a waiter (and it was nothing...truly not a big deal to get angry about but I could see the sneer)...but I saw it...I saw the switch get flipped...and that waiter situation was the true reality of what would be coming my way X 50 later on. I put myself on high alert, saw a couple other things that told me I was absolutely correct...and removed myself from that relationship real quick after that. Again Ive seen this time and time again in relationships....that jealousy, that anger, that instability, that hint that she isn't so faithful, that not telling the truth....in the beginning will happen in the end 50X

Link to actual post: IntenseMuscle.com - View Single Post - Ask a guy named Doggcrapp anything...

Wow this is just so true. Dante is indeed s wide man

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[sammy555]

A wise man I ment to say. Fingers to big for phone lol

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[cal]

im 28

Great even worse.

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[Bigtiny8859]

Great even worse.

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are you one of those people that annoys the fuck out of people just for the sake of attention?

 

[f450]

Maybe this will help, maybe it won't.

All I ever really wanted to do was lift big weight. When I was a teenager, I was told school had to come first. So I put aside lifting, studied my ass off, made it into a top private school, full scholarship. Holy balls, then the work started - I never had any clue I'd have to work that hard to keep up.

I got off to a bad start, but then came back, and pulled 4.0 semesters. I was told that I should work on my PhD. So, I got into a top grad school, full research assistant, and worked on my PhD. Holy balls - the work. I didn't have time for anything but studying.

Went through a bunch of personal shit, ended up out of the PhD program with a complementary masters, and finally started lifting again. I really had purpose. I was thinking about competing in a BB show.

I was about 30. Everybody told me I had to get my professional life on track. So, I did. I started my own software development business. No time to train, and diet went to hell.

Fast forward to 3 months shy of age 45. I was morbidly obese, hated everything about myself. I remember my wife and I were enteraining clients in our penthouse suite in the Ritz in Chicago, and we went out to a musical, and afterwards, I told her, "I want out."

For my 45th birthday, I started to try to train again. Had a lot of pain, and found out I had a disease which was going to leave me immobile by about the age of 60, if not dead.

I'm 51. If there's one thing I regret deeply in my life, it's that decision to stop pursuing that first bodybuilding show at about age 30, and to hop into the professional rat race with both feet and give up training.

Good luck with your decisions.

man thats some heavy shit. sorry about your diagnosis. Every day just becomes more important now. I have a friend that had a similar diagnosis at age 23... he was also a very promising athlete and a med student. Sent him into a deppresive spiral he never recovered from. I wish you the best. Lift hard, Lift heavy.

 

[TigerBolt]

I completely understand a wife not wanting illegal steroids in her house ... but if this is over you being more attractive to the opposite sex you need to set boundaries on how much this woman gets to say over your life.

Look over this site bro.
**broken link removed**

Oh shit. I'm in trouble.

 

[flexdurden]

A wise man I ment to say. Fingers to big for phone lol

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Although he is pretty wide as well... a wide and wise man he is, that Dante