Information provided, I would much rather share a gym with the spotter who can't read my mind than op.
i feel your anger, i asked for a spot doing squats, started to struggle this dumb sob hops over to one side of the bar where the plates are loaded and starts pushing. fortunate i was able to stay stable and rack it. it took everything i had not smash his head in
I know a few guys that spot each other on squats and they are not gay but most of the woman in the gym believe they are because it looks so strange to see them up against one another.
I always ask the person that I am spotting whether they want me to help them or let them struggle and do it on their own as people are different in their needs.
Sounds like a good spotter to me. Unless you stated exactly what you wanted that's how I would have spotted you. The whole idea of a spotter to me is help me when I have completely failed... not 2 reps before but exactly when I fail. I will bring the weight up with them then let them do negatives till they have no more. That to me is a perfect spotter. The guys who can't spot are the ones who assist you through all the rep when it isn't needed. I do not want to be able to lift the weight a cm before someone spots me. I want them to give me a second to struggle too.
What's the point in a spotter helping you when you have only just began to struggle... the spotter is there to enable you to go to complete failure and so he can help you get the bar back up safely. Sounds to me you shouldn't be having a rant about him at all.