Have any of you guys run into something like this?
My wife was always "curvy" when we were dating..I didnt mind at all..always liked my girls like that personally...I have been helping her with her weight for about 8 years now(since we met)...teaching her how to eat, how to workout properly etc...Im still teaching her...she has never really "gotten it"...she has no "internal drive" if you will..its in one ear and out the other...
After we married the weight starting getting outta control...we had some kids..she got huge and stayed huge. Im not talking a few pounds...like 5'7" and 250...OBESE....tons of bodyfat..big rolls everywhere, stomach, back, back of the knees..its disgusting. Shes probaly around 220 now (dont know for sure, she wont tell me) and she hates it but just wont get off her ass to do anything about it...she thinks working out 1-2x's a week half ass is gonna do it....
This whole time I have been VERY supportive of her...I would offer to forego my gym time for her...get up early with the kids and do the morning routine with them so she could go walk/jog around the neighborhood before work..she wont get out of bed....she'd rather sleep an extra half hour...today, instead of going to the gym after work shes going to happyhour...I would even still try to be intimate with her on a regular basis but would get turned down all the time...this led to some major disconnect obvisously and we are now going to therapy...not sure if its helping or not...
I am to the point where I am no longer attracted to her at all...partly because of what she looks like but mostly because of the sheer laziness on her part...it disgusts me. She tried to get intimate with me last night and I just couldnt bring myself to do it...she got real upset.
I really dont know what else to do here... we have two kids together and she is a great Mom...her "wife" skills are seriously lacking though to be honest..."marriage" means two very different things to us...I owe it to my kids to try and make this work but I am at wits end and could use some advice. Thanks for listening
My wife was always "curvy" when we were dating..I didnt mind at all..always liked my girls like that personally...I have been helping her with her weight for about 8 years now(since we met)...teaching her how to eat, how to workout properly etc...Im still teaching her...she has never really "gotten it"...she has no "internal drive" if you will..its in one ear and out the other...
After we married the weight starting getting outta control...we had some kids..she got huge and stayed huge. Im not talking a few pounds...like 5'7" and 250...OBESE....tons of bodyfat..big rolls everywhere, stomach, back, back of the knees..its disgusting. Shes probaly around 220 now (dont know for sure, she wont tell me) and she hates it but just wont get off her ass to do anything about it...she thinks working out 1-2x's a week half ass is gonna do it....
This whole time I have been VERY supportive of her...I would offer to forego my gym time for her...get up early with the kids and do the morning routine with them so she could go walk/jog around the neighborhood before work..she wont get out of bed....she'd rather sleep an extra half hour...today, instead of going to the gym after work shes going to happyhour...I would even still try to be intimate with her on a regular basis but would get turned down all the time...this led to some major disconnect obvisously and we are now going to therapy...not sure if its helping or not...
I am to the point where I am no longer attracted to her at all...partly because of what she looks like but mostly because of the sheer laziness on her part...it disgusts me. She tried to get intimate with me last night and I just couldnt bring myself to do it...she got real upset.
I really dont know what else to do here... we have two kids together and she is a great Mom...her "wife" skills are seriously lacking though to be honest..."marriage" means two very different things to us...I owe it to my kids to try and make this work but I am at wits end and could use some advice. Thanks for listening