need help with the wife

[engbulldog]

Ok tonight we are watching tv and the whole day been talking about sex,well she decides to turn in for the night and i join her as im lying in bed a dumb questions pops up !!!ok when she was younger she had a girl friend yep girl on girl... Well then the question i asked was "when you and that girl " i dont know her name."my wife rips the name off right away""i say ok her did you eat the ----- fill in the blank she said no which is fine so i say what strap-on her reply no now i get quiet and she then informs me so dude they were or still friends with would come over and bang them both or a 3-way Now i can feel my bp getting up there and i roll over she asks if im mad i say no.... and i'm not cuz it was in her past but what has me so f-in pissed is i have to beg for sex and or a hand-job.... but she can get a 3-way going .....WTF Now we do have a 10mth little girl and i'm happy with our marriage so why am i so f-in pissed???? what do i do?????? She is a stay at home mom which is cool with me and i work 2nd shift ... but i have never seen someone so tired all the time from doing nothing, yes she cooks,cleans ,the cloths and the baby stuff but come on really!!!! My mind is starting to ply tricks w/me "is she cheating on me w/the mail guy,ups dude""" damn i'm getting a headache just writing this


well i'm out I give up

 

[scrapper13]

bro i really doubt she is cheating on you...things change when you get married and have kids, so you cant expect her to have the same sex drive that she had when she was 20 or whatever. also, a lot of women have mood swings and get a little down after they give birth. you said your kid is 10 months right? could be a biological thing going on i wouldn't fill your head with all that nonsense. you married the woman you obviously love her so its not even worth asking questions that you know you are gonna get yourself all worked up.

 

[GorillaGenetics]

beat the shit outta her

j/k

maybe u gotta try some new things in the bedroom brah buy her some toys etc to try and spice things up if she was into 3ways and shit then normal sex might not do it for her try roll playing food tie that hoe up see what shes into and if none of that works.....

beat the shit outta her

 

[tenny]

its your fault man

you broke the number one rule

NEVER ASK ABOUT PAST RELATIONSHIPS

PERIOD!!!!!

sorry bro

 

[BOOMSHAKER]

All i know is my head was friggin spinning from english lesson there!


Tenny is correct, never ask about the past. Unless you're ready to hear the bold truth. But exactly what are you getting pissed at? You knew what she was about before you married her correct? It sounds like she was into a few things before you, AND with you before you two got married. And now you fear while she is married she may be doing something like she did in her past? SHOCKING!

 

[aeliop]

This is your biggest problem

Now we do have a 10mth little girl and i'm happy with our marriage so why am i so f-in pissed???? what do i do?????? She is a stay at home mom which is cool with me and i work 2nd shift ... but i have never seen someone so tired all the time from doing nothing, yes she cooks,cleans ,the cloths and the baby stuff but come on really!!!! mad:

Taking care of a 10 month old, cooking, cleaning, doing all the shit so you don't have to is "doing nothing"? Are you kidding me that you think this way of her and you really are having to ask why she doesn't f@#$ you? This may sound really harsh but you are absolutely clueless as to what makes a chick tick. Especially one that is confined to being at home with a baby, cleaning up after you, and feeling genuinly disanfranchised. Do you really think the highlight of her day is giving you a handjob?

1. From this day forward not only should you act like what she does around the house is very important but you should believe it as well. Make her feel appreciated.
2. Give her a break every once and awhile. Send her off somewhere while you take care of the kid. If you can swing it get a maid once a month.
3. Give her massages, get romantic, etc...

Not to be to harsh and a dick but I want you to see all of the trees through the forrest you are looking at.

 

[JoeGraft]

slather her in witch hazel

 

[J.Blaze]

Taking care of a 10 month old, cooking, cleaning, doing all the shit so you don't have to is "doing nothing"? Are you kidding me that you think this way of her and you really are having to ask why she doesn't f@#$ you? This may sound really harsh but you are absolutely clueless as to what makes a chick tick. Especially one that is confined to being at home with a baby, cleaning up after you, and feeling genuinly disanfranchised. Do you really think the highlight of her day is giving you a handjob?

1. From this day forward not only should you act like what she does around the house is very important but you should believe it as well. Make her feel appreciated.
2. Give her a break every once and awhile. Send her off somewhere while you take care of the kid. If you can swing it get a maid once a month.
3. Give her massages, get romantic, etc...

Not to be to harsh and a dick but I want you to see all of the trees through the forrest you are looking at.

Totally agree. Great advice

slather her in witch hazel

You really love this shit.LOL

 

[cpesloco]

Ok tonight we are watching tv and the whole day been talking about sex,well she decides to turn in for the night and i join her as im lying in bed a dumb questions pops up !!!ok when she was younger she had a girl friend yep girl on girl... Well then the question i asked was "when you and that girl " i dont know her name."my wife rips the name off right away""i say ok her did you eat the ----- fill in the blank she said no which is fine so i say what strap-on her reply no now i get quiet and she then informs me so dude they were or still friends with would come over and bang them both or a 3-way Now i can feel my bp getting up there and i roll over she asks if im mad i say no.... and i'm not cuz it was in her past but what has me so f-in pissed is i have to beg for sex and or a hand-job.... but she can get a 3-way going .....WTF Now we do have a 10mth little girl and i'm happy with our marriage so why am i so f-in pissed???? what do i do?????? She is a stay at home mom which is cool with me and i work 2nd shift ... but i have never seen someone so tired all the time from doing nothing, yes she cooks,cleans ,the cloths and the baby stuff but come on really!!!! My mind is starting to ply tricks w/me "is she cheating on me w/the mail guy,ups dude""" damn i'm getting a headache just writing this


well i'm out I give up

Many people I know have found themselves in the same situation. Tony is right, that's the formula. The problem is we dont want to do all that work.

We want it to be like it was when it was new, hot and heavy, reality is that takes alot of work and most of us are not ready to put it in.

I feel for you bro, I have been there and lost because of it, yet I learned so perhaps its not all a loss.

 

[gin]

I understand why her past bothers you but you shouldn't be poking on the past...
I'm sure some things would bug her too about your past if she knew.
You mentioned that you don't understand how tired someone can be from doing nothing...
yeah she cooks, cleans and takes care of a 10 month old but she does nothing.
Right there you are very ignorant.
You are doing double shifts and you are exhausted, but you're not realising that she works around the clock 24/7.
Do you have any idea what it's like to raise a baby for a mother? I'm not putting you down, I'm just trying to drive your mind away from thinking that she is cheating on you.
You're a guy, naturally you have a higher sex drive than she does, you can be tired as hell and still wanna climb in bed with her, where as she thinks the first chance I get to climb in bed is to close my eyes for a bit.
Don't give up on your relationship just cause you're thinking with the wrong head.
Good luck!

 

[FordTurboDiesel]

Poking in the past will create a nightmare for you and if your an, "analyzer" like me....your just playing with fire. Ive lost so many because I can't get a grip on my mind at times....

Don't fuckin do it man....don't. Its one of the hardest lessons I have learned is to love the person now and stop questioning the person, "then".

I think Tony is right on. In fact...I would try to get her out at least once a week. All this is going to build and build and backfire at some point. You want the girl looking back valuing the guy you are. Not looking at you and resenting you cause of your current wants.

Selfishness breeds selfishness. Thats not your goal.

 

[napaulm]

i kinda feel ya, mate. it's like when i've had girlfriends,ok, not a wife, but still, and they've been sluts in the past, or just really kinky, and now when i'm with them, they want to go slow, get to love me, etc. ok for them in the past to just give it up to any swinging dick, but now i have to work for iT??
also, it's true. taking care of a baby is a full time job. no wonder she's tired. but i know where you're heads at. as was said, analyzing will fuck u up in the head. i do the same thing. altho for me, it has led to finding out the truth about certain women who's whole life seemed to revolve around lying to me.

 

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[triathloncoach]

You were kinda vague

She doesn't want sex as much as you. Ok, how often do you believe is reasonable?

Sorry everyone, but there really are tougher things to do than stay home with your 10 month old child. You are with the person you adore above all others, you are home, you are free to bee-bop around town and see your fellow stay at home moms, the kid sleeps, no commute, no obnoxious boss or colleagues. Although it's not easy, I have done it myself as a stay at home dad. But it aint working on a roof in January or August. It aint commuting 2 hours each way into Manhattan, worying about being laid off.

But does she want sex once a week? Less? For all you religious folks a spouse is supposed to be physically available to their mate.

If you are being unreasonably demanding - like I am when juicin - then shame on you. If she is being unreasonably unavailable - shame on her. One of you needs to be more understanding to their spouse.

I'm home with "a" kid is not a free ticket to forget you are still a wife. But you can't treat her like she lays around sleeping all day either. It's all a balance.

 

[daddy_lover]

Ok tonight we are watching tv and the whole day been talking about sex,well she decides to turn in for the night and i join her as im lying in bed a dumb questions pops up !!!ok when she was younger she had a girl friend yep girl on girl... Well then the question i asked was "when you and that girl " i dont know her name."my wife rips the name off right away""i say ok her did you eat the ----- fill in the blank she said no which is fine so i say what strap-on her reply no now i get quiet and she then informs me so dude they were or still friends with would come over and bang them both or a 3-way Now i can feel my bp getting up there and i roll over she asks if im mad i say no.... and i'm not cuz it was in her past but what has me so f-in pissed is i have to beg for sex and or a hand-job.... but she can get a 3-way going .....WTF Now we do have a 10mth little girl and i'm happy with our marriage so why am i so f-in pissed???? what do i do?????? She is a stay at home mom which is cool with me and i work 2nd shift ... but i have never seen someone so tired all the time from doing nothing, yes she cooks,cleans ,the cloths and the baby stuff but come on really!!!! My mind is starting to ply tricks w/me "is she cheating on me w/the mail guy,ups dude""" damn i'm getting a headache just writing this


well i'm out I give up

My wife is stay at home with two kids. She does everything. I am a business owner and work over 80 hours a week.

That being said, my wife works 10 times harder than me. Bro, I'd be exhausted too if I were her.

And yeah, you shouldn't have asked her about her past, but a three way would get me all pumped up. What's wrong with you?????

 

[daddy_lover]

She doesn't want sex as much as you. Ok, how often do you believe is reasonable?

Sorry everyone, but there really are tougher things to do than stay home with your 10 month old child. You are with the person you adore above all others, you are home, you are free to bee-bop around town and see your fellow stay at home moms, the kid sleeps, no commute, no obnoxious boss or colleagues. Although it's not easy, I have done it myself as a stay at home dad. But it aint working on a roof in January or August. It aint commuting 2 hours each way into Manhattan, worying about being laid off.

But does she want sex once a week? Less? For all you religious folks a spouse is supposed to be physically available to their mate.

If you are being unreasonably demanding - like I am when juicin - then shame on you. If she is being unreasonably unavailable - shame on her. One of you needs to be more understanding to their spouse.

I'm home with "a" kid is not a free ticket to forget you are still a wife. But you can't treat her like she lays around sleeping all day either. It's all a balance.

Wow, you're an ass. You wouldn't even get close to my daughter, trust me.

 

[engbulldog]

its been cleared up guys thanks for the advice ...all is good again we sat down and had a long talk and we both relize what we need and want!!!!
Thanks for all the help and I know my english sucks and or writting skills thats why I dont teach it LOL I build Trucks for a living now do you feel safe

 

[pesty4077]

its been cleared up guys thanks for the advice ...all is good again we sat down and had a long talk and we both relize what we need and want!!!!
Thanks for all the help and I know my english sucks and or writting skills thats why I dont teach it LOL I build Trucks for a living now do you feel safe

You did the right thing, you communicated with her. I am glad it worked out!

 

[daddy_lover]

its been cleared up guys thanks for the advice ...all is good again we sat down and had a long talk and we both relize what we need and want!!!!
Thanks for all the help and I know my english sucks and or writting skills thats why I dont teach it LOL I build Trucks for a living now do you feel safe

Congrats! Always gotta communicate with the wife!

 

[MPMC]

I think I'd start shooting for a threesome