Relationship

[johndoe]

Seen others doing it so I figured what the hell it just might help me get through these F.U. feelings im having. I been dating a very nice woman for the past year now off and on. The last three months been pretty strong. Shes fun, loving, careing and full of energy. A real pleasure to be around and I know Im falling for her. She says the same which makes it nice.But in this time she has also told me twice that she wants to see other people which doesnt agree with me all though she says not anylonger. She is always flurting with other men. Needs that attention I guess. She has a real strong relationship with her Ex husband which is great for their daughters sake and I understand that myself being divorced and having children. I can handle them hangin at the pool together with their daughter I guess ? Going to the beach together for a week with their daughter, I dont know? Im not quite sur what the attraction is? Sex is good, Looks great, Fun to be around when shes not flurting. I used to be fine but I think she told me she wants to see others one to many times and her actions with others makes me uncomfortable at times. She says Im starting to get alittle posesive and making her uncomfortable. Not feeling good about this but dont want to break up. Why? Been down this road and its never good. Im sure it has alot to do with me. Insucure I guess. I dont know. Feeling it, I do know that.

 

[Iceman1800]

If she wants to see other people and you want an exclusive relationship, how do you think this has any chance of lasting? Time to cut your losses before you get hurt pretty badly

 

[xxsuprman22xx]

If she wants to see other people and you want an exclusive relationship, how do you think this has any chance of lasting? Time to cut your losses before you get hurt pretty badly

have to agree, you're setting yourself up for some real heartbreak down the road if you try and force it. best of luck bro

 

[VanR__]

If she wants to see other people, then why does she keep fucking you?
It sounds like you're her FWB. I'd walk if you want something remotely serious.

 

[triathloncoach]

Hmmm

I was told by my dad that relationships move forward or they die. Unless you can emotionally detach yourself you may be in trouble. Why don't you go on a date (doesn't have to be sex) and see how that effects your girlfriend? This will tell you were you guys are at.

"You want it to be this way. But it's that way." Welcome to life.

 

[EVERLAST]

walking....

You need to give yourself a gift...
walk away.
Do not look back, do not re-contact,
do not "touch base", or "check up on" either.
Total cut off.

You need to do this to make sure that you can.
You need to get away from her and be ok on your own for a minute.
You need to see OTHER PEOPLE and be ok with that.
Do not go straight for the sex or you risk a repeat rebound.

Just breathe and live and lift for a while.
Give her the gift of missing you.
If she is "yours"...
then nothing you do can fuck it up.
If shes not ...
then everything you do will.

hide and watch what happens.

 

[sadie]

If she wants to see other people and you want an exclusive relationship, how do you think this has any chance of lasting? Time to cut your losses before you get hurt pretty badly

i agree with this also.. you both obviously want different things and if you are both sticking to your guns on your wants and they still do not match its better (emotionally) to walk away and find someone that wants the same things you do

 

[johndoe]

I hear everything you guys are saying and agree and as you know its just not that easy. We talked today and im picking her up like a dumb ass but I think I am almost ready to make a change. Her attitude hasent changed a bit but after tonight I think it just might be enough to do what I have to. { DRAMA } I hate it. Feelings suck and hurt sometimes and thats why Im talking about it. Just need to vent sometimes. Thanks Guys

 

[johndoe]

You need to give yourself a gift...
walk away.
Do not look back, do not re-contact,
do not "touch base", or "check up on" either.
Total cut off.

You need to do this to make sure that you can.
You need to get away from her and be ok on your own for a minute.
You need to see OTHER PEOPLE and be ok with that.
Do not go straight for the sex or you risk a repeat rebound.

Just breathe and live and lift for a while.
Give her the gift of missing you.
If she is "yours"...
then nothing you do can fuck it up.
If shes not ...
then everything you do will.

hide and watch what happens.

I like everything everybody is saying but this is great man. You are so right. Thank You

 

[notsobig32]

You need to give yourself a gift...
walk away.
Do not look back, do not re-contact,
do not "touch base", or "check up on" either.
Total cut off.

You need to do this to make sure that you can.
You need to get away from her and be ok on your own for a minute.
You need to see OTHER PEOPLE and be ok with that.
Do not go straight for the sex or you risk a repeat rebound.

Just breathe and live and lift for a while.
Give her the gift of missing you.
If she is "yours"...
then nothing you do can fuck it up.
If shes not ...
then everything you do will.

hide and watch what happens.

Everlast, i swear, you had to have been through some really tough relationships. I am following this advice exactly right now during my impending divorce. I am learning to be on my own without a woman and i am actually enjoyingg life. I have even gone so far as to turn down dates etc. I am just doing my own thing, lifting, living, and doing it the way i want. For the first time since i was 16 i am not in a relationship and i don't feel the need to be. I am having the time of my life with my friends, making some of the best gains of my life in the gym, reestablishing old friendships and just all around trying to become a better person....and figuring out exactly who that person is.

So take everlasts's advice!!!! the man definitely knows his relationship advice.

 

[EVERLAST]

time....

Time cures all pains? Dont you believe it!!!
Some pain is so deep and so primal that there is no getting over it.
No one who passes this way comes out unchanged and it affects all aspects of your life. Time dulls the edge, but the knife still cuts...
I would hope that I could warn and help others avoid the paths I took.

Romance has a funny way of giving you the "experience" you need,
just AFTER you really need it.

I think most men let their dick do the girlfriend picking.
I think that it's because we get so much of a response from that aspect of the relationship.
I mean there has to be attraction and alot of it, but other stuff is just so crucial and well, if she is a rockin hot babe you tend to overlook alot.

Pick a new girl like you would a roommate...MESSY OR NEAT?
are your money styles compatible?
Do you see life the same way,
is she a swimmer vs. a floater?
Does she want kids and do you?

Hey you say you dont want to rush into all that?
OK ...then dont rush into that crotch either...

We should try to pick her out with our brains,
AND hearts...
and then go see about the dick vote.

Fire your dick as the girlfriend picker!

 

[BigDM]

You need to give yourself a gift...
walk away.
Do not look back, do not re-contact,
do not "touch base", or "check up on" either.
Total cut off.

You need to do this to make sure that you can.
You need to get away from her and be ok on your own for a minute.
You need to see OTHER PEOPLE and be ok with that.
Do not go straight for the sex or you risk a repeat rebound.

Just breathe and live and lift for a while.
Give her the gift of missing you.
If she is "yours"...
then nothing you do can fuck it up.
If shes not ...
then everything you do will.

hide and watch what happens.

Listen to this bro. He's one wise mo fo.

Always good advice Everlast. Have I got sum shit to share with you. It blows my mind.

 

[johndoe]

Time cures all pains? Dont you believe it!!!
Some pain is so deep and so primal that there is no getting over it.
No one who passes this way comes out unchanged and it affects all aspects of your life. Time dulls the edge, but the knife still cuts...
I would hope that I could warn and help others avoid the paths I took.

Romance has a funny way of giving you the "experience" you need,
just AFTER you really need it.

I think most men let their dick do the girlfriend picking.
I think that it's because we get so much of a response from that aspect of the relationship.
I mean there has to be attraction and alot of it, but other stuff is just so crucial and well, if she is a rockin hot babe you tend to overlook alot.

Pick a new girl like you would a roommate...MESSY OR NEAT?
are your money styles compatible?
Do you see life the same way,
is she a swimmer vs. a floater?
Does she want kids and do you?

Hey you say you dont want to rush into all that?
OK ...then dont rush into that crotch either...

We should try to pick her out with our brains,
AND hearts...
and then go see about the dick vote.

Fire your dick as the girlfriend picker!

I think I gotta fire my dick. I think you will understand when I say that just the thought of her is enough to depress me. I know I will get over it, its just getting there is the key. ( TIME )

 

[notsobig32]

Time cures all pains? Dont you believe it!!!
Some pain is so deep and so primal that there is no getting over it.
No one who passes this way comes out unchanged and it affects all aspects of your life. Time dulls the edge, but the knife still cuts...
I would hope that I could warn and help others avoid the paths I took.

Romance has a funny way of giving you the "experience" you need,
just AFTER you really need it.

I think most men let their dick do the girlfriend picking.
I think that it's because we get so much of a response from that aspect of the relationship.
I mean there has to be attraction and alot of it, but other stuff is just so crucial and well, if she is a rockin hot babe you tend to overlook alot.

Pick a new girl like you would a roommate...MESSY OR NEAT?
are your money styles compatible?
Do you see life the same way,
is she a swimmer vs. a floater?
Does she want kids and do you?

Hey you say you dont want to rush into all that?
OK ...then dont rush into that crotch either...

We should try to pick her out with our brains,
AND hearts...
and then go see about the dick vote.

Fire your dick as the girlfriend picker!

You have hit the nail on the head. This is what i DO EVERYTIME. lets see if i can break the cycle.

OP, hang in there bro, like everlast said, time will dull the pain.

 

[freaktt]

A MEN

 

[EVERLAST]

excuse me sir?

A MEN

Dude is that you in the avatar?
Look like that guy from green mile... michael clarke-duncan?
anyway...respect!

 

[EVERLAST]

Everlast, i swear, you had to have been through some really tough relationships. I am following this advice exactly right now during my impending divorce. I am learning to be on my own without a woman and i am actually enjoyingg life. I have even gone so far as to turn down dates etc. I am just doing my own thing, lifting, living, and doing it the way i want. For the first time since i was 16 i am not in a relationship and i don't feel the need to be. I am having the time of my life with my friends, making some of the best gains of my life in the gym, reestablishing old friendships and just all around trying to become a better person....and figuring out exactly who that person is.

So take everlasts's advice!!!! the man definitely knows his relationship advice.

Thanks man...glad to be of service.

 

[freaktt]

Dude is that you in the avatar?
Look like that guy from green mile... michael clarke-duncan?
anyway...respect!

lOl.. Really this is my back.. a offseason pic... from the arnold this year... my web desinger shot....

 

[freaktt]

here is one more....

 

[Ness]

here is one more....

DAMN!