If it was depression, then I would think there would have to be a time frame. She works with a dr and/or therapist, she takes meds or whatever is recomended,etc. I would have that time frame in mind after that period, say a year or so, if it wasn't better then I would have to consider leaving. Sex is a critical part of a relationship for both partners.
I just don't believe in cheating anymore. When i was younger it was a different story, because i didn't understand the problems that come along with it. I regret dearly the times I cheated, and would take them back if I could. When you cheat it takes away something from yourself and the other person. No one will like this, but I think it shows a lack of character. Thats how I felt about myself.
Happiness has to be a part of a healthy relationship, and no matter the cause to stay, example kids, long term relationships without happiness is a horrible way to live,and I promise you cheating won't help that.
thank you for your input.
and its been over 4 years pf depression and i been with her for about same time. but at first it was non stop sex (like how the first fewmonths usually are)
not its like 1 time every 2 months! if im lucky and i have NEVER cheated on her in this time frame.
but i cant leave because shes soo messed up about fam, ex-bf that robbed her blind (she dotn care about him she cares that she et him get that far), life and how shes in her 30's with nothing to show for it.
I feel bad, I love her, I wont leave her, but i wont stay without sex.
I also dotn feel its right to put myself threw this at the same time, i want to be happy, but i care too much and am not an ass hole liek most guys, or this would be easy for me.
I feel supporting her threw this all and being there for her is the right thing to do and I cant leave , also im worried what she will do if i did.
but i also want to have a freaking sex life. I am aVERY sexual person, i mean if she was up for it 2-3 times a day every day would be me.
id be happy with atleast a couple times a month or even a week.
2 yrs ago it was like 1 time a months this year it seems like about every 2, what next?
I have brought it up a bunch of times. the last time it turned into a fight, i told her straight out Its hard not to cheat on you.
I wont leave but i think im gonna cave and cheat sadly.
I hope it will aleast make ME not so depressed and maybe ina sick way help her?
BTW yes went docs ect. she need cognitive therapy i think, and have mentioned it to her a few times but i can push her to it.
I feel soo fucked up.
and there are 2 girl frinds trhat want me, i mean both one keeps askign me to meet with here, told me she straight up wants my dick. she knows i have a GF, shes been face to face with her.
I kinda felt her "girl" once and got her goign i guess and her frind oddly.
man im lost.
same as thread starter, I feel you man!