What's up with my g/f!?

[Howdy1626]

guys i need your opinion on this matter! here lately my g/f and i have been having problems! like she'll be a total bitch to me for like a week maybe two and then all of a sudden she'll start being nice and everything like she was when we first met. see, we have one child together (7 months old) but we never got married and we dont live together. we split up after she started acting like this. we broke up right before she told me she was pregnant and then we got back together cause i wanted to make things right for my little boy. shortly after she had him she really flipped her lid. we've been dating for about 2 years on and off and the first 6 months were gold then i cheated on her. after months of apology we got back together but things havent been the same since. for over a year now ive been struggling with this relationship trying to make it work, but it seems like im going nowhere quick! shes had me arrested for kidnapping my own child (wouldnt bring him home whenever SHE wanted him home) and shes "tried" to get my ass whooped but that sure as hell didnt work! lol i really love her to death and i want whats best for my little boy! a family. am i doing something wrong? i need some advice! this is killing me! it seems like the only escape i get is working out! thats only 2 hours a day. the rest of the day im thinking how shitty my situation really is and if its going to get any better or not!?

 

[Larry Bowie]

I hope Ouch reads this...

 

[gettnlarge01]

My experience has been when a woman acts like that she"s hiding something.Talk to her girlfriends to see whats going on because I bet she told one of them whats bothering her.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

guys i need your opinion on this matter! here lately my g/f and i have been having problems! like she'll be a total bitch to me for like a week maybe two and then all of a sudden she'll start being nice and everything like she was when we first met. see, we have one child together (7 months old) but we never got married and we dont live together. we split up after she started acting like this.

acting like what? so far so good at this point

we broke up right before she told me she was pregnant and then we got back together cause i wanted to make things right for my little boy.

This may seem like a nice thing for your son and the self-sacrifice you both made was admirable but "for the sake of the kids" never really works.

shortly after she had him she really flipped her lid.

postpartum maybe? Very common. Hormonal imbalances, chemicals gone awry! Seriously everywhere.

we've been dating for about 2 years on and off and the first 6 months were gold then i cheated on her.

This is where you lose me. THis type of thing can cause all but in rare cases, irreparable mistrust and all sorts of inner resentment and other problems. A HUGE screwup!

after months of apology we got back together but things havent been the same since.

yeah... no shit

for over a year now ive been struggling with this relationship trying to make it work, but it seems like im going nowhere quick! shes had me arrested for kidnapping my own child (wouldnt bring him home whenever SHE wanted him home) and shes "tried" to get my ass whooped but that sure as hell didnt work! lol i really love her to death and i want whats best for my little boy! a family. am i doing something wrong? i need some advice! this is killing me! it seems like the only escape i get is working out! thats only 2 hours a day. the rest of the day im thinking how shitty my situation really is and if its going to get any better or not!?

Okay. Here's some ideas for you... GO TO COUNSELLING. She needs to express her feelings and learn to trust you again and you need to learn what you need to do to help her to do that. She needs to get out all her anger and hurt and resentment and all that junk because all that is still in there just eating away at her... and indeed your relationship. That doesn't necessarily mean that you need to see someone together and it doesn't mean that it needs to be a psychologist but it does mean it has to be someone with experience and qualifications to deal with these things. I think you can get through this but it's going to take some effort.

Keep up posted my friend,

OTH

 

[OuchThatHurts]

BTW... Is this really your first post? It seems amazing (not that I mind of course!) that your first post to a bodybuilding and powerlifting forum would not be something like "what's the best protein?" or "why does my back hurt after deadlifts?" but a question regarding your personal life. Again, not saying that's not perfectly alright. Because it is.

Anyway, welcome to Pro Muscle!