I'm about to tell my mother in law and wife's grandmother to go to hell!!!

[abolish the weak]

So I just had this knock down, drag out, blowout fight with my wife. The argument was over her bitch mother and grandmother calling her all the time when she's with me. I work 2 jobs, one which requires me to be away for 24 hr shifts, and it never fails, every time I'm home with my wife and step daughter either her mother and/or grandmother are calling her up. If she does not answer her cell they immediately call the house. They live on the same street as us (big fucking mistake) and as soon as the car either leaves or comes home(our car) here comes the phone ringing off the hook. IMO they are inconsiderate bitches who need fucking lives of their own. I am gone from home all the time, there are enough opportunities they can call and speak to my wife and not interrupt my time with them. So tonight it just pushed me over the edge. My wife was crying and really upset, and she's pregnant and really does not need stress like that of an argument right now. But to her it's MY FAULT. No, I said you know who's fault it is? It's their fault, because none of this shit would be happening if they knew when to back the fuck off. My stepdaughter was crying and scared because she sat there and saw this argument and I tend to have a very deep, threatening voice when
I raise it (which is hardly ever) The poor kid say's mommy how come every time I come home he's yelling and in a bad mood? I wish I could just say to the kid "look, your grandma is a fucking nuisance and your great grandma can kiss my ass" but they dont understand all of that. I told my wife in a couple years after I can straighten my credit back out she can kiss this house goodbye. I'm not putting up with this shit any longer than I have to. And to top it off, I have a mildly retarded idiot living to the house to the right of me who can't take a fucking hint and leave me alone. I'm mowing my lawn the other day and the dipshit walks over and sits there on my porch and watches for about 10 minutes. He finally gets the hint I'm not shutting my mower off to talk to him, the fucking sun is going down and I had shit to do. God damn my street and damn her family!! But I'm the bad guy here, WTF

 

[tomuchgear]

damn bro that is rough. first thing i gotta ask have you addressd your wife bout this issue prior to tonights fight?

 

[abolish the weak]

damn bro that is rough. first thing i gotta ask have you addressd your wife bout this issue prior to tonights fight?

yes, several times. Up until now I haven't had it in my heart to tell family to back off because sometimes they can be hurt by it and not take anything to do with you for a long time. I do not want that, all I want is some time with my own family without them calling all of the time. If it was even a once in a while thing, or once/wk thing whatever, but it's EVERY FUCKING TIME we either just leave in the car, just come home, or I just get home from work and walk through the door.

 

[LEX]

you need to have a sane controlled discussion with your wife about all that shit. She needs to realize how that makes you feel and how it is interfering with your relationship. Then she needs to talk to them to fix it. good luck I feel for ya.

 

[eroc613]

Just keep reminding your girl, how inconsiderate it is for them to do what they are doing. Don't bitch to her, that will make her feel like you think it's her fault. Just keep reminding her, and she'll start seeing things the way you do. (hopefully)

 

[tomuchgear]

well first of all you need to say sorry. i know that you probaly dont want to. you need to fix things with you wife. then explain it to her. if that doesnt work then you talk to the family and say hey. from this time to this time is our family time. we need some time to ourselves to relax and talk about the day. had that problem with my wife when we first got married. recently as well. i dealt with it by telling my wife to go move in with her mother. in a very joking manor. just said since you guys need to talk so much leave my daughter and i will take my little brother in law and we can switch every other weekend. once the ice was broken it was easy to talk about it. with our work schedules, my lifting schedule we dont get alot of time. so all i ask for is an hour or so after we get off work to be the no phone time. i dont answer mine text or any thing. she doesnt answer hers. this has worked out very well. some times parents dont understand especialy with a little one on the way. your next concern should be the step daughter. are the two of you close? if you are then fixing things will be much easier if not. hopefuly you can find some common ground and explain things. sounds like from your post she is taking the arguing to personaly. hope that helps a bit. damn inlaws can be tedious. could be worse you could have a prick for a father in law. met the guy twice, in the almost six years my wife and i have been together. he is a royal dick. so now if he is coming in to town i told the wife he can come over i will go some place else.

 

[RONJON]

yea I would try to have to have a talk with your wife to get her to get them to back off...and then id MOVE asap

RONJON

 

[hellraiser27]

Rough bro! Inlaws suck. I divorced my ex-wife for similar issues. Not just for that, but it didn't help if you know what I mean.
Good luck bro!

 

[thebrick]

Yikes! Were they all thick like this before you came into the picture? If so, you have a big problem that going to take some possible serious mediation. I say that because your wife thinks its you. And a baby on the way? Think about where that's going…

 

[pesty4077]

So I just had this knock down, drag out, blowout fight with my wife. The argument was over her bitch mother and grandmother calling her all the time when she's with me. I work 2 jobs, one which requires me to be away for 24 hr shifts, and it never fails, every time I'm home with my wife and step daughter either her mother and/or grandmother are calling her up. If she does not answer her cell they immediately call the house. They live on the same street as us (big fucking mistake) and as soon as the car either leaves or comes home(our car) here comes the phone ringing off the hook. IMO they are inconsiderate bitches who need fucking lives of their own. I am gone from home all the time, there are enough opportunities they can call and speak to my wife and not interrupt my time with them. So tonight it just pushed me over the edge. My wife was crying and really upset, and she's pregnant and really does not need stress like that of an argument right now. But to her it's MY FAULT. No, I said you know who's fault it is? It's their fault, because none of this shit would be happening if they knew when to back the fuck off. My stepdaughter was crying and scared because she sat there and saw this argument and I tend to have a very deep, threatening voice when
I raise it (which is hardly ever) The poor kid say's mommy how come every time I come home he's yelling and in a bad mood? I wish I could just say to the kid "look, your grandma is a fucking nuisance and your great grandma can kiss my ass" but they dont understand all of that. I told my wife in a couple years after I can straighten my credit back out she can kiss this house goodbye. I'm not putting up with this shit any longer than I have to. And to top it off, I have a mildly retarded idiot living to the house to the right of me who can't take a fucking hint and leave me alone. I'm mowing my lawn the other day and the dipshit walks over and sits there on my porch and watches for about 10 minutes. He finally gets the hint I'm not shutting my mower off to talk to him, the fucking sun is going down and I had shit to do. God damn my street and damn her family!! But I'm the bad guy here, WTF

Well, I am going to give you some rational advice, and you are not being that lately. My mother-in-law lives with us and I did not want this either, as a matter of fact it made me mad, that my wife wanted to move her in. Now, here is the truth, it isn't all about me all the time, as a matter of fact I was being selfish with what I wanted, then what my wife wanted. Your mother-in-law was your wife's mother before she was your wife(think hard about that). She is pregnant and her emotions are already scrambled, she does not need this. Did you not take a vow, through better or worse? Well, this is one of these times where things might not go your way. I would do anything for my wife and kids, giving my all to make them happy. Happy wife = Happy life. By you showing some resentment towards her family, it makes her resentful. By the way, my mother-in-law at 72, has no one to take care of her with heart problems and no income to support herself. She has been with us for several years and speaks highly of me to her family and friends and we get along great. My wife is happier than ever and treats me like gold. It was well worth me humbling myself and putting someone else first. I been with my wife 18 years. Nothing will beat experience in life.

 

[thebrick]

Well, I am going to give you some rational advice, and you are not being that lately. My mother-in-law lives with us and I did not want this either, as a matter of fact it made me mad, that my wife wanted to move her in. Now, here is the truth, it isn't all about me all the time, as a matter of fact I was being selfish with what I wanted, then what my wife wanted. Your mother-in-law was your wife's mother before she was your wife(think hard about that). She is pregnant and her emotions are already scrambled, she does not need this. Did you not take a vow, through better or worse? Well, this is one of these times where things might not go your way. I would do anything for my wife and kids, giving my all to make them happy. Happy wife = Happy life. By you showing some resentment towards her family, it makes her resentful. By the way, my mother-in-law at 72, has no one to take care of her with heart problems and no income to support herself. She has been with us for several years and speaks highly of me to her family and friends and we get along great. My wife is happier than ever and treats me like gold. It was well worth me humbling myself and putting someone else first. I been with my wife 18 years. Nothing will beat experience in life.

Now that's some good words of insight right there.

 

[tattoojr]

I've lived this way for 17 years, every time I get home she's on the phone. She can get home from her mothers house and the phone will ring and a 1 hour conversation will follow. It used to get to me, but now I just let it go as I know I'm in a no win situation. If I need to talk to her she puts it down and everything is cool.I also work long hours and have other interests that keep me from home. I think that her having a close realionship with her sisters and mother is a good thing as long as they understand I am the final say in my house. Its worked out good, as long as my house is clean the kid is healthy and I get laid regular whats wrong with her on the phone. Step back , think things through and don't get into a fight you can't win right now. J.R.