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Hey guys, i have been havin some serious relationship problems lately. well its all new anyways, but since everyone seems to have such greaty advice and big hearts around here, i thought i would ask yall what you think about this and what i should do. I am 25yr old, just got married to a woman 6 months ago, and we had been dating 2 yrs, bofore that. well we had had some bumps in the hill like every couple has and really never looked too deep into it. before we got married she used to be a great woman, easy goin, super hot, great bod, will hang out with anyone and get along with anyone, also has a nice family. but seems like ever since we have gotten married, all i hear is constant nagging,she doesnt care what she looks like and sits around the house all day after she gets off work, its as if she turned into a crazy animal when that wedding band went on her finger. the sex is still there and very steady (test...) and is usually initiated by her, but the probelms and fights never stop.i know this wont sound like something a guy would say, but a marriage isnt all about sex, there needs to be some happiness in other ways, it even has gotten to the point when she got mad at me cause i was gonna cook quesadillas instead of baked chicken, and she completely blew up. I know not alot of you know me very well, but i try to be the most pleasant and understanding to a woman and try to understand what they are feeling atthe time, but man guys, i feel like hell, i cannot please her, she say, youre so insensitive and you dont give a shit about me, all you care about is yourself, youre just a huge asshole, you never spend time with me and dont care to. well guys this is really got me at a stump. last nite she was yelling and screaming because i wouldnt fight with her. i have begun counseling for my personal problems and my counselor tells me to first stop the fighting before it begins, so when i do try to stop it, BOOM!!!! she fuckin explodes beacuse i wont get into a fight with her. I hate to think this but i am NOT happy and dont think she will change, she is 24 and just as stubbvorn as hell, she wont go to couseling because she says i have all the problems. i know this may sound crazy guys, but sometimes i feel verbally abused. being constantly yelled at and told youo do this wrong and never think about anything but yourself, man it gets so old, and i am actually thinkin of divorce. yes guys i love her, but i want to be happy, and this is not my idea of happy. Correct me if i am wrong sigmund, but you cant make someone else happy if you yourself arent happy. and i am taking care of my personal problems i experieced when i was young (parental abandonment) and i know i have problems and want to fix them, but my wife wont think about it.. any suggestions.. i need some help... it hurts in my heart every damn day...
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