Sterioids/Domestic Violence ...PArt 2

Big_O · Oct 10, 2006

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Well this is not a feel good kind of thread for me.....

Me and the wife had a fight...I left her at the festival for being ridiculous....I aint fighting...NO WAY....

Came in after fishing probably 6:15 or so....Said hello to the wife and reached over as a good gesture a kiss and hug kinda thing...Bam a right hand in the left eye..

I called 911 as I was taught and we were fighting and Im not sure what the step- kid heard something against me and probably in mommmy's favor...

house is surrounded in a blink.....I told the wife i shouldnt have called let me say i tried to call 411.... Isaid to her...let's just say the dog scratcked me...No i'll tell him my side....The good thing is after she hit me I stepped away....NO FUCKING WAY AM I EVER GOING TO GET IN THAT POSITION AGAIN...

Im glad because of a couple of things...having that mind set too walk away...thats something I never could do....

I just started on some test 700 and then 700 ...never ever came into play..

Big_O · Oct 10, 2006

Im seriously hurting inside....I know she didnt mean it but the damb ass woman of mine decided....Im going to go out and tell my side....

How he inflicted the bruise on his eye...all by himself....Get this...serioiusly....I drank a full bottle of wine he came home and tried to kiss me....and then i hit him.....This is on her statement....REALLY..

And the swelling is self inflichted after she admits hitting me....
Sister in law comes in my house and says......I heard it's self inflichted...On MY CHILDREN'S SOUL

jtat326 · Oct 10, 2006

Big_O said:
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Well this is not a feel good kind of thread for me.....

Me and the wife had a fight...I left her at the festival for being ridiculous....I aint fighting...NO WAY....

Came in after fishing probably 6:15 or so....Said hello to the wife and reached over as a good gesture a kiss and hug kinda thing...Bam a right hand in the left eye..

I called 911 as I was taught and we were fighting and Im not sure what the step- kid heard something against me and probably in mommmy's favor...

house is surrounded in a blink.....I told the wife i shouldnt have called let me say i tried to call 411.... Isaid to her...let's just say the dog scratcked me...No i'll tell him my side....The good thing is after she hit me I stepped away....NO FUCKING WAY AM I EVER GOING TO GET IN THAT POSITION AGAIN...

Im glad because of a couple of things...having that mind set too walk away...thats something I never could do....

I just started on some test 700 and then 700 ...never ever came into play..

Sorry to hear about the fight bro, but way cool doing the right thing. Too many people blame AAS for their shitty behavior. I feel so good when I'm on cycle I think it takes more to get me upset then when I'm off. The way i look at it either you're an ass or you're not. And you're not.

littlemack · Oct 10, 2006

man. sorry to hear this Big O. That just sucks. People don't understand that women can be just as violent as men in these situations. I've got a friend who picked up his gf from a club, and he's driving along with her in the passenger seat and then "WHAM" she elbows him in the eye. He's a big ol' boy too. 240lbs at least. 6'1".
In my former life, I was married to a real bitch, who never physically abused me b/c she was so small but she loved to verbally abuse me. Try and break me down that way instead.
Just hang in there bud. Sometimes a cooling off period can really help.

Big_O · Oct 10, 2006

Thanks....

Go ahead Kaiser....you know brutha......it feels like my heart is literally ripped right out of my chest.....The sad thing is this.......ON MY CHILDRENS SOULS..

IT'S SELF INFLICTED.....this is literally the 4th time she's hit me and the last..

THIS IS FOR ALL YOU CUNTS ....CUNTS....THAT JUMPED DOWN MY THROAT FOR POPPING MY WIFE FOR ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR....

The 1 st time she pooped me a good one and I popped her ass immediately...she's swung at5 me on 2 other occasions and connected I let it go....Not this fucking time.....GONE IN JAIL

liftin4life · Oct 10, 2006

Big_O said:
Thanks....

Go ahead Kaiser....you know brutha......it feels like my heart is literally ripped right out of my chest.....The sad thing is this.......ON MY CHILDRENS SOULS..

IT'S SELF INFLICTED.....this is literally the 4th time she's hit me and the last..

THIS IS FOR ALL YOU CUNTS ....CUNTS....THAT JUMPED DOWN MY THROAT FOR POPPING MY WIFE FOR ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR....

The 1 st time she pooped me a good one and I popped her ass immediately...she's swung at5 me on 2 other occasions and connected I let it go....Not this fucking time.....GONE IN JAIL

So wait a minute...they arrested her? Wow...I can only imagine how much that must hurt to have to do that. I know how much self-control it takes not to retaliate when on a cycle. It takes everything you have and then some...not to break the person in half because you know you easily could. Props on doing the right thing...it's too bad it had to come to that.

Hang in there man...she needs counseling. You're too much a part of the situation to help her. You did what you had to do.

jtat326 · Oct 10, 2006

I know it's just words, but relax for a couple days and get your breath back. I'm sure you know that time is the best healer no matter what the final outcome is. Last gf came over my house drunk, after I was sleeping and started a fight. Then SHE called the cops on ME. The cops came and after talking to us wrote it with me as the DV victim. The one cop said he's been doing this long enough to know she came over to start some trouble. That was the wake up for me that sent her packing.
Keep your chin up. It'll get better.

littlemack · Oct 10, 2006

Just walk away man. Go get yourself a room in a hotel somewhere and get away from it all. I know what your going through man. People will say and do anything to cover their own asses or get back at someone. Things are too heated at the moment and there is nothing rational about it. Neither one of you will be able to make sense of things until the anger has dissolved. You did the right thing man. Be proud of yourself.

Big_O · Oct 10, 2006

I had too bro....

Ive opened up my heart on the the boards and literally got shit for everone thinking that I was the abusive one....not this time

I AINT FALLING FOR THE BANANA IN THE TALL PIPE TWICE....

Big_O · Oct 10, 2006

nOP SHE'S OUT OF THE HOUSE....AND SO IS THAT LITTLE BRAT OF HERS...

THERE ALL SAYING THAT IS SELF INFLICHTED.......

Is this what a womans defense is....yea i popped her before for literally belting the fuck out of me....my big mistake...

I did 30+ weeks of DOMESTIC Violence Classes....

I have to be honest with you....I didnt have a choice because of the brat daughter....I didnt know what would come out of her mouth...Im on probation till get this...10/26 and the cops knew every facy before they even talked to me.......

liftin4life · Oct 10, 2006

Big_O said:
nOP SHE'S OUT OF THE HOUSE....AND SO IS THAT LITTLE BRAT OF HERS...

THERE ALL SAYING THAT IS SELF INFLICHTED.......

Is this what a womans defense is....yea i popped her before for literally belting the fuck out of me....my big mistake...

I did 30+ weeks of DOMESTIC Violence Classes....

I have to be honest with you....I didnt have a choice because of the brat daughter....I didnt know what would come out of her mouth...Im on probation till get this...10/26 and the cops knew every facy before they even talked to me.......

Damn dude...that sucks. The issue with the legal system is that the cops believe just about anything a female says. A female can take out a domestic violence charge if she SAYS she was attacked/assaulted. A male would have to show physical proof of damage from the assault. Not all magistrates will go for this but MOST will issue the charge/warrant in favor of the female. Moral...stay away from psycho women! (good luck w/that one)

iron fist · Oct 10, 2006

sorry to hear bro.
im married to a hell cat myself. jails not going to work for her.
sure it might for a little while, but its not going to solve the
problem. if you are going to make things better, you should
consider trying to talk her into getting professional help and/or
medication. i had this same problem and finally after 8 months
of that shit, i finally talked my wife into getting some medication.
my life has never been better. im finally going to start another
cycle.

i know its hard to do nothing when someone is striking you.
just look at them and think to yourself they are mentally handicap.
would you punch someone in a wheel chair?

Big_O · Oct 10, 2006

Shiiiit...Im the one on meds rigfht now...

BECAUSE OF THE SHIT I DID TOO HER THE LAST TIME SHE SWUNG AT ME..

IWAS THE ONE LOCKED UP BECAUSE I POPPED HER AND VIOLATED THE RESTARINING ORDER...

This dumb ass wife of mine calls me after getting bailed out tonight and says she hates me and wants a divorce...

She blew way over the influence...comes here gets in her car drunk out of her mind...I called the cops on her just like she did too me...

I literally got on the cops tonight....she blew .19 she gets out of jail and drives her car....I got on the cops for it...and they got her....

Philips · Oct 10, 2006

liftin4life said:
Damn dude...that sucks. The issue with the legal system is that the cops believe just about anything a female says. A female can take out a domestic violence charge if she SAYS she was attacked/assaulted. A male would have to show physical proof of damage from the assault. Not all magistrates will go for this but MOST will issue the charge/warrant in favor of the female. Moral...stay away from psycho women! (good luck w/that one)

Bump this... for sure bro, your best bet is to stay away from a chick like that. Behaviour like that is bound to get someone in trouble. If you get away, one day you will look back and think to yourself , damn am i glad I didnt stay in that , I would probly be in jail right now. If you stay you may look back down the road and think y didnt I get out before things got this far. Not sayin that you would beat her, but situations can get outa control quickly, its best to not keep yourself in position where something might even happen. Props on keepin control of yourself brotha, it takes a bigger man for sure. I know this is a cliche we have all heard but "life is to short" find someone cool you get along with and who will jump up and give ya hug when you come through the door. Dont waste your time unhappy. I wasted six years of my life married to a bitch. Soon as divorce was over I never knew how much happiness I was missin out on. Good luck bro.