Responses up until yesterday
in the sexual marketplace, people are only worth the lowest price they have ever demanded
if a person has slept with someone else (or many dozens of people) for free, that is their price.
if they demand a higher price from you (a relationship, provision, marriage, '6 month rule'), they literally see you as far less than every other person that has come before you.
Oh man, I could go on a whole rant about this one. This is why I have always tried to sleep with women as fast as possible. The longest I had ever waited was 8 “hang outs” which was insane to me, next longest was 5 “hang outs”, and 95% of the time it’s been 1st or 2nd time hanging out with a girl. Nothing worse than someone taking a girl out on a bunch of nice dates (lawl at taking a girl on fancy dates before you guys have even done much) to find out she let that hot guy who picked her up a few months prior fuck her in the ass the first night lolol.
ok fine. there ARE differences between unmarried and married relationships besides creating a massive financial incentive for your woman to leave you.
but the vast majority of them can be EASILY solved with basic paperwork.
and regarding insurance, sure he had me there.. i will concede.
There ya go
no arguments there.
I may need to be on my wife’s insurance to be honest. If I have to have private insurance due to working in private practice, and she works for a company, then with my pre-existing health conditions I may benefit from being on her insurance. I’ll have to look into it
the vast majority of women go crazy after their looks start to fade. imagine having a super power all of your life, and then you lose that superpower forever.
that would be REALLY hard to deal with. which is of course, part of the reason why women's happiness has decreased so much over the past few decades, and so many women are on anti depressants.
then menopause comes a couple decades later. marriage is still a good idea tho obvi
It has really shocked me to find how many women have a history of depression and medication use. Not even talking the 30+ crew. Probably half of the women I’ve been with have mentioned some history of depression and who knows how many just never admitted it. It’s also probably why I’ve found a number of women in their 40’s going after me and my friends….probably feels good for them to feel they can still attract a younger man.
i dont think it's that weird if the man is financially successful and takes very good care of himself.
there's a guy at my gym who looks fantastic in his mid 40's. he's juiced up, and looks REALLY good.
a lot of men look dumpy, and stay looking dumpy through their best years. call of duty/fortnite and loads of cheetos and mountain dew
I think this is another one of those concept vs. reality things (such as the marriage discussion). The reality is you’re right, it shouldn’t be that weird for say a 27 year old woman to date a 40 year old man if he’s fit, attractive, wealthy, etc…but the concept of it prevents a lot of stable women from doing it. “It’s weird” “he’s too old” even if it’s not necessarily logical. Just my observation that most girls I’ve met who have been with a guy close to 40+ tend to be girls I wouldn’t want to date.
some guys just have stronger self-preservation instincts.
Is this what you say to them lol
precisely.
by telling your woman that you will literally pay her to leave you, you are disincentivizing commitment from her.
in order to guarantee her good behavior, you must be able to withdraw provision at any time. this can only be achieved in an unmarried relationship.
It’s a reasonable point for sure. I am somewhat considering talking to my gf about getting married through the church but not the state. I would feel bad though and I would feel less committed to her. Like it would give me an excuse to leave and like it’s just a matter of time before I do.
Perhaps that’s because in the back of my mind I know I will want to be with other women, and the guilt in me wants something forcing me to do the “right thing” and stay with her through that. Healthy right?
what will they tell me
i haven't posted anything racist on twitter yet..so far so good
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I'm pretty sure a woman looking at pictures of me online doesn't think I'm gay. That's not why they never respond to me.
What's funny is a woman will have 1 or more divorces and multiple failed relationships and see herself as being perfectly normal. And yet there is something wrong with me. My view is "isn't there something wrong with you because you obviously can't make a relationship work". I told a girl that and she didn't like it. Truth hurts.
I’m so curious now what you and your dating profile looks like lol.
Ha ha ha. My favorite scene in ESB. I'm actually VERY confidant. But that doesn't make a woman look at your pictures and go "I think I'll message that guy back". Confidence, Intelligence, etc only matter if a woman likes your looks to begin with. Its the same with us and women. If I think a woman is unattractive physically then I don't give a shit how smart she is or her personality is great. We're all vain when it comes to physical attraction. Its just human nature. 90% of all information the human brain processes is visual. To say "looks" are not the single biggest factor in determining attraction is to simply not understand basic science.
This applies MUCH more to men than women. Yes, most men don’t want anything to do with a woman who isn’t physically attractive. But I know plenty of guys who look like shit who have had no issue getting laid by sexy women. Status is huge, as is confidence, ability to socialize, touch correctly, etc.
I will say though that when it comes to dating apps this changes a lot and women think much more like men. “Not hot? Swipe left”. I’ve noticed you get a lot of women who are like a 6-7/10 who now think they’re the shit because they find guys on the apps who are 9-10/10 who are willing to fuck them. In person it’s very different. I’ve attracted plenty of women in person who I will be the first to say are much more physically attractive than I am.
I think you're taking a lot of it too seriously. I use a lot of self-deprecating humor. I make fun of myself. I'm not remotely attracted to an "average" woman. Not on a physical level or an emotional level or intellectual level. Here's the thing. Every day of my life, with rare exception, someone tells me I look like Goldberg. Evidently that is not a look women like. Now some grossly obese ugly women do. But I'm not attracted to them. I do not have a poor self-image.
I can wake up every day and think I'm the biggest stud on earth and I'm gorgeous. My thinking that will not convince a woman who looks at me I am in fact those things. I do online dating because its the only way for me to meet a woman. Problem is not one single woman ever responds back. Now is it because I haven't said or written some magical words down. Or is it just a plain matter of fact that she looks at my face and my body and just doesn't find it appealing so she's not going to waste her time talking to me. I sure as hell wouldn't send a message to a woman I don't think looks good.
Now I’m wondering 1.) what the women you’re messaging look like 2.) what you’re saying to these women and 3.) If you believe Goldberg has any trouble finding women to go out with lol
Well I'm glad I'm not the only one with this mind frame. For some reason I'm stuck on a previous fling that I "fell in love" with. I know its not right but I'm definitely not perfect. I often wonder when I'm going to change and become normal. Sometimes the thought of settling down depresses me. I wish I could live 100 life with 100 different girls. I truly don't think people were ultimately designed to be with one person for the rest of their lives.
I know at some point I should "lock down" the best you can get when you can still attract a quality companion prior to your own decline. What scares me is the idea of becoming single and having some medical issue that would prevent me from one upping from where I'm currently at. Its a selfish though but I feel thats how men's minds are wired.
I say this while Im in a longterm relationship and most would see me as a good person. But my internal thoughts are still the typical male stereotype. The struggle is real.
Yea I’ve thought that too lol. When I was dating those 4 women more seriously I wished I could have just dated them all and had different lives with each of them. All of them were very unique.
I can definitely relate to the health issue. When I found out about my cardiomyopathy it scared the shit out of me and my gf wanted nothing but to help me and be with me. Having said that…I still had numerous women who knew about my heart wanting to date me. Still though, I think in general “disease” on the whole makes a man less attractive in a biological sense to women so I usually keep that to myself. If a woman is wise she would not knowingly be as willing to date someone with a significant health condition.
that's how women think as well..
and it really seems like im what is all of their idea of 'one-upping'
ive never gotten more worn-out, weathered single mothers casting their lines at me... all since i passed the CPA and started wearing corporate casual LOL
they've all had their 'fun'... now they're looking to 'settle down lol'
it brutal out here
Do you sleep with these women or just ignore them?
as is the case with most things in life.. it's good to have options
and while im a monogamous guy when im serious with a girl, i can't guarantee she will be the same way
so i may have options, she may have options..
but her exploring those options while still receiving part of my paycheck will not be an option.
It is honestly a scary prospect. If I’m being brutally honest *part* of the reason I stay with my gf is because she is such a safe option. I have a complex about trusting women and I feel it’s very justified. SO many women (and men) cheat. SO many who don’t even cheat are always on the look out.
Here’s something you all might find interesting. Maybe a little fucked up but oh well. A while back my brother sent this quiz out to all of these women, I had the link and did the same. It was supposedly anonymous but in reality we could see the answers. Had tons of questions about how many partners they’ve been with, if they’ve cheated, etc….average was probably about 20 partners (keep in mind average age of these girls was low to mid 20s). Many had either cheated or said they wanted to cheat. Many had said they’d wanted to sleep with their partner’s friends/brothers/cousins. Even those who don’t cheat are often looking for that upgrades. Whenever a new environment is opened up, people cheat and leave their exes. Go to college? Dump all the high school relationships and cheat like mad. Go to med/dental/pharmacy/etc school? Can’t tell you how many people cheated and/or broke up with their exes and started new relationships.
Conversely, my girl just doesn’t do that. I’ve snooped due to my mistrust (I know, I shouldn’t) in the past and she just literally doesn’t talk to other guys. She doesn’t use IG, doesn’t use snapchat, she’s just a good girl who wants to marry the man she’s in love with. Which is why I feel awful ever thinking about ending things with her. And it’s also why it makes me cringe like hell to imagine breaking up with her for another woman because I could easily see a situation where I do that, and the new girl breaks my heart or fucks me over. I mean hell, I just told you guys I met a girl at the gym recently who had an insane amount in common with me, totally infatuated with her….then her juiced up ex suddenly came back into the picture and she stopped talking to me. What if I had broken up with my gf and dated this girl for a few months and
then that happened? I’d be distraught. My gf is basically my best friend. She is the best person I have ever met for a partner to go through this crazy life with. Doesn’t change the fact that I still miss that new-love infatuation feeling and want to fuck every hot girl I see walk by in leggings :\ I have no solution for this other than to lie and cheat, which is obviously not a good or moral decision.