ADVICE FOR STRESS

[elg123]

I have a huge month coming up, I am moving, changing jobs(Pending if i get my transfer) and have a very invasive bodylift surgery coming up all within the next 30 days, I have been totally stressed, as I feel i should be, I am not worried about myself, ive overcame alot in life, and know everything will pull through if i put in the effort.

My worry is this. My work performance and relationships with freinds and family are being affected, I am really mistreating people that don't diserve it. I realize after I am doing this but it is to late. I am known for being very friendly, and because of this it makes my mood so much more noticeable for those close to me. I am handling this by telling the people in my life that it is not them, and that i am going through alot over the past couple months. and that I deeply appoligize for any mistreatment i have afforded them, and to stick with me as this is temporary and is not purposefull or malicious in anyway. I am not depressed, just on the end of my nerves(I have never had surgery before, and a body lift is very invasive) I know this will pass and have a positive outlook on what these life changes will bring me.
i am being verbal about what is going on and not trying to hide it from them.

Does it sound like i am handling this the best way possible?

 

[buffbabeca]

i think you are doing just fine... keep communication open and be honest with your friends and loved ones... im sure they understand and want to be supportive.

 

[elg123]

Thanks, I appreciate your comments

 

[oldfella]

Elg, many people suffer from stress. We all deal with the stress very differently, some, like yourself tend to get irritable and snap at others for little or no valid reason. others tend towards depression (I am this way) and still others do not take things seriously no matter how serious the situation is. These are what I call somewhat normal. First thing to do Is identify the source of your stress..........Job issues.........relationship issues............health issues. Then break em down and analyise them. Your fears of surgery for instance, while somewhat founded and yes there is always risk involved not as bad as you make it out to be. The anxiety you create can manifest itself as stress in a big way. This proceedure is done all the time by the professionals that perform them. Put your trust in them and let them do their job. Moving, can be stressful. I tend to look at it as a positive change and new beggining. New things and challenges await you. Embrace this as good and remove the stress from it. There are many things in our lives that are well beyond our control, try not to stress over these things and let nature run it's course. Change the things directly in your control and make them work for you. You have made some very positive changes in your life now and the chapter is nearly finished. The next chapter is yet to be written. So do not punish others around you with your stress, instead embrace them and ask them for their help! Good luck with your surgery bro, and hold your head high.......you have much to be proud of!!

 

[megaman]

You`re being so honest with yourself, you`ll heal sooner than you think. Here`s my recommendations..

Four options:

1. Go sailing with a bunch of friends, bring a lot of books.
2. Visit your mom or grandma`s home for a few days.
3. Spend a weekend at Charlisangels with a russian doll ( check the selection at www.charlisangels.com )
4. Buy a guitar, piano or saxo, start new lessons.

Honestly, I`d take option #3 and a bit of #4, chicks love a man who can play, and your friends would love to hear you playing at the parties. The babes at Charlie`s will do whatever`s needed to lift your spirit, I`ve been there, done that. Back home I soak in a soothing massage by my special masseuse.

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I have a huge month coming up, I am moving, changing jobs(Pending if i get my transfer) and have a very invasive bodylift surgery coming up all within the next 30 days, I have been totally stressed, as I feel i should be, I am not worried about myself, ive overcame alot in life, and know everything will pull through if i put in the effort.

My worry is this. My work performance and relationships with freinds and family are being affected, I am really mistreating people that don't diserve it. I realize after I am doing this but it is to late. I am known for being very friendly, and because of this it makes my mood so much more noticeable for those close to me. I am handling this by telling the people in my life that it is not them, and that i am going through alot over the past couple months. and that I deeply appoligize for any mistreatment i have afforded them, and to stick with me as this is temporary and is not purposefull or malicious in anyway. I am not depressed, just on the end of my nerves(I have never had surgery before, and a body lift is very invasive) I know this will pass and have a positive outlook on what these life changes will bring me.
i am being verbal about what is going on and not trying to hide it from them.

Does it sound like i am handling this the best way possible?