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As some of you know I have separated after 13+ years of marriage and live on my own now in Tokyo.
I have said before that I do not intend to become a miserable person and will continue to love women and be as positive as my life allows me. Life is too short to be an old curmudgeon.
Now, suddenly turning free-agent after all these years, I am out of practice to say the least. Mind you, I am not looking for anything more than a lunch date here and there and other casual dating. Thing is, I don't know how to go about it.
I will lay out two current scenarios and ask for input (maybe Marylin can chime in for me?)
1. Beautiful girl at work. Very much my junior, but oh my god gorgeous. I noticed her right away after starting back in 10/2007. Whenever she walked by my desk she would shyly look me in the eyes. (I was on a corner desk at the then of a hall). I would match her look and sometimes she would shyly drop her eyes and sometimes not. Sometimes I would catch her sneaking a look at me as she rounded the corner. She is very quiet and shy. When I see her in the halls, we often lock eyes. When I hold the elevator for her she is overly thankful and happy.
Now it is nearly two years and I am "free". She still acts this way around me.
I am too gun shy to approach her in anyway, I don't really know what to do. What I would like is some opinions. It seems to me that she likes me and is shy about it. Maybe she is just waiting for me to say something...
2. Knock out at my gym. She started talking to me first. In English mind you (not all that common here). Comments on my physique, how young I look for 40, complements me on my effort when training, yada yada...basically hitting on me I think. This has been going one about once a week for a few months and I have let it slide as I had hopes to recover my marriage.
I'm thinking now I should ask her out for lunch...
I have said before that I do not intend to become a miserable person and will continue to love women and be as positive as my life allows me. Life is too short to be an old curmudgeon.
Now, suddenly turning free-agent after all these years, I am out of practice to say the least. Mind you, I am not looking for anything more than a lunch date here and there and other casual dating. Thing is, I don't know how to go about it.
I will lay out two current scenarios and ask for input (maybe Marylin can chime in for me?)
1. Beautiful girl at work. Very much my junior, but oh my god gorgeous. I noticed her right away after starting back in 10/2007. Whenever she walked by my desk she would shyly look me in the eyes. (I was on a corner desk at the then of a hall). I would match her look and sometimes she would shyly drop her eyes and sometimes not. Sometimes I would catch her sneaking a look at me as she rounded the corner. She is very quiet and shy. When I see her in the halls, we often lock eyes. When I hold the elevator for her she is overly thankful and happy.
Now it is nearly two years and I am "free". She still acts this way around me.
I am too gun shy to approach her in anyway, I don't really know what to do. What I would like is some opinions. It seems to me that she likes me and is shy about it. Maybe she is just waiting for me to say something...
2. Knock out at my gym. She started talking to me first. In English mind you (not all that common here). Comments on my physique, how young I look for 40, complements me on my effort when training, yada yada...basically hitting on me I think. This has been going one about once a week for a few months and I have let it slide as I had hopes to recover my marriage.
I'm thinking now I should ask her out for lunch...