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I'm late to the thread here but feel compelled to post my opinion.
Perhaps you should tell us more about yourself? If you just started a new career 3 years ago I get the feeling you're within your 30's? Regardless of whether you are or not, why would you subject yourself to this type of relationship?
Whether she is cheating or being faithful, I think you fail to address the issue that you have serious trust issues with this women. No 'healthy' relationship would have this type of issue within it. If you were 110% confident in your relationship you would take her word for it and move on.
If you're on the young side, in a great career and moving forward in life...why would you waste your time in a relationship with so many doubts? One where the action of this women controls your life to the point where you can't function, or go to the gym, etc. That sounds more like an obsession than a mutual relationship. Where else in your life is she potentially controlling you and your emotions? Why would you commit to someone who is damaging your progress towards your life goals because of a video?
Monogamous relationships are 'trial runs' for marriage (in most cases.) If you can't trust this women with something like that why are you considering making her your wife? Maybe having unprotected sex with her? Living with her? Etc, etc, etc. If you can't trust her with a video you're going to trust her with much larger issues as your relationship becomes more serious? If you have no intensions of marriage, why is she living with you? Why are you in a monogamous relationship? Why are you wasting precious years of your life with someone who doesn't make you completely happy.....
Perhaps you should tell us more about yourself? If you just started a new career 3 years ago I get the feeling you're within your 30's? Regardless of whether you are or not, why would you subject yourself to this type of relationship?
Whether she is cheating or being faithful, I think you fail to address the issue that you have serious trust issues with this women. No 'healthy' relationship would have this type of issue within it. If you were 110% confident in your relationship you would take her word for it and move on.
If you're on the young side, in a great career and moving forward in life...why would you waste your time in a relationship with so many doubts? One where the action of this women controls your life to the point where you can't function, or go to the gym, etc. That sounds more like an obsession than a mutual relationship. Where else in your life is she potentially controlling you and your emotions? Why would you commit to someone who is damaging your progress towards your life goals because of a video?
Monogamous relationships are 'trial runs' for marriage (in most cases.) If you can't trust this women with something like that why are you considering making her your wife? Maybe having unprotected sex with her? Living with her? Etc, etc, etc. If you can't trust her with a video you're going to trust her with much larger issues as your relationship becomes more serious? If you have no intensions of marriage, why is she living with you? Why are you in a monogamous relationship? Why are you wasting precious years of your life with someone who doesn't make you completely happy.....