Guys, I really appreciate the support, and I apologize for my absence; things have been VERY hectic, to put it mildly… [I actually wouldn't even have the time to be on here right now if I weren't sick, which has pathetically been a blessing in disguise]…
Correct. I have never been in your situation. Id never skip out on a Loved one. I would drop whatever I was doing if I thought Family or Friends needed or wanted my time, assistance, money, etc.. Hope it worked out for you
ICU, thanks for being more understanding.
If you've never been in my situation, it's probably difficult, (if not impossible), to truly understand how bad it hurts…
S2N, leanbody, Keaton, & klowndog - thanks for the tips and/or for sharing your experiences. It totally sucks; and when money is involved, it just makes things 10x worse (sorta like putting a price-tag on how bad you're shitted on and adding to the stress).
I didn't want to get too detailed, (originally), but my current situation is a bit more twisted/complicated -
Currently, I live at home with my folks (and brother)… and not really by choice, (at least not anymore). It's a very long story, but in a nutshell: A few years ago I rescued an animal who's monthly upkeep LITERALLY costs nearly 50% of my salary. When I first purchased/rescued this critter, I was living away from home, and life was really good! But then I switched jobs and ended up near home, at which point my folks offered for me to move back in. I took them up on the offer, cuz you can literally never have too much money, owning the type of "pet" that I own.
Well, shortly after moving back in, two things happened simultaneously: 1 - I realized my folks, (rather, my mom in particular) had gotten MUCH worse and I wanted out! 2 - Despite my new/excellent job, I became financially strapped (and am still several thousand in debt to my folks), after shelling out just over $20,000 to save my pet's life from a rare infection.
Regardless of the debt, the situation (and lack of options) remains the same: continue living at home (=continue enduring was boils down to abuse from my folks (mom)); or move out. But, in order to afford to move out, I first need to sell or give away my pet, (and this has been the BIG catch). As much as I love the critter, I can part with him if I could be guaranteed to find a good home. But, due to the HUGE costs of keeping this type of pet, finding a good home is extremely difficult, (and the chances that my pet would be in good hands for the rest of his life are even more slim). So basically, (unless I wanna fuck over an innocent, loving creature which I haven't had the heart to do), I'm kinda trapped/stuck with the folks…..
For you folks that experience this... Does the pressure/favoritism come from both parents? Or is it "daddy's lil girl & mommy's lil boy" syndrome(Im guilty of this)? Is the favoritism show to the youngest sibling? Or the minority gender? Again, to the OP... I hope it worked out for you
ICU, actually/interestingly the answer is sort of both… it's very weird/complicated… like right now, I get along with my dad better than I ever have in my life, (which isn't saying much, though!). I HATED my dad, growing up because he had/has a HORRIBLE temper and is the type of person to FLY OFF THE DEEP END at EVERY LITTLE thing. As a kid, he ALWAYS used to blow up at me (and at my mom) the most; but don't get me wrong, there were days when he'd blow up at my bro as well! Even still, it seemed that my dad would fly off the handle more at me and my mom (the women in the house); and my mom even pointed this out to him a few times.
Currently, most, (if not all) of the favoritism comes from my mom. She basically runs the show around the house; (my dad just doesn't get in the middle of her; I don't blame him!). Like, my mom is the one handing my bro lots of money each week to go party, golfing, and/or on vacation; my mom was the one who threatened to throw me out of the house if I did get a job after I turned too old to be on her health insurance… (but now pays >$500/month for my brother to have health insurance AND is also paying for him to get a Master's degree; AND, I should mention, NEVER ONCE pressured or even encouraged him to get a job). In fact, a few times, I even overheard my dad (talking to her), saying something like, "it's really ridiculous that [my folks] are doing
everything for my bro when
have a job…" My mom would always interrupt, get defensive, and angrily tell my dad to be quiet; and he never would press things further.
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