So hello guys....I just could not resist responding to this post. I am Sage74's fiancé. I just want you all to know just how much information he left out of his story and lets hear what you have to say about it! First off the ex he speaks of...he failed to mention that we were dating for four months and he broke it off over the summer while he was selling his home with her. During that time he supposedly went to her new home to pick up some things and while there was jumped by her boyfriend and beat to a pulp. The new boyfriend also trashed his car. So not only was she trying to contact the guy he was speaking of, but she also joined our gym. What nut job does that after that episode? Forgive me, but I don't enjoy drama in my life or someone messing with what I have going on!
Next, as far as the trust issues go! While in a relationship with him, I found him on IHookup.com which he denies he was on. However the website said he was active in the last 24 hrs. I also found messages on Facebook to a girl he was seeing that summer while we were apart. He was telling her he would rub her back, etc. etc. Told me it was all just a joke. (Some joke! I'm not messaging ex's!) It goes on to him messaging old school mates, etc, etc. But the ultimate just happened when he kept mentioning a classmate in his nutrition class. Kept telling me how fast she runs and bringing her up, claiming they are partners on a project. Now keep in mind I was training for my first half marathon that I was running at the end of April and was it appropriate to hear about some 21 yr old and her six minute mile? I had received a text message at work stating, "I always forget my headphones!" at 9:10 am the week of my marathon. That text was out of context because the only time he forgets headphones is when he goes to the gym, which he stopped going with me over the last two months because he claims he has so much school work. So I decided to go through the phone bill and find he is texting this classmate frequently. I was running a 10K on a Saturday and he was texting her the whole race claiming they were discussing a project. I simply asked him to show me the project and he couldn't produce it!
Let me not fail to mention that this classmate is 21 years old and was knocked up by her boyfriend and has a one year old. So the boyfriend dumped her and now she is hitting on my fiancé. I explained to him that this girl is messed up and looking for a daddy to solve all her problems and asked him to set boundaries. I asked if she was coming on to him and he said no. He claims she was insignificant and they only talked about school work. As we argued about it, he threw his phone at me and left. I went through the phone and found the girl's phone number in his contacts but he had it under his professor's name. Her email was there and selfie pic of her in a bikini! Oops....he failed to mention all that! Anyhow I was able to speak with the girl and she told me she was going through a hard time because of the break up and flirting was a way to build up her confidence again. She told me he never told her he was engaged and that he was going through a break up since December. WOW!!! Did he tell you he was hiding the fact that he was engaged....didn't see that in the post! Now he claims she had her story mixed up. She couldn't even explain how the pic got on his phone.
Regardless if he banged her or not, as far as I am concerned he emotionally cheated, shared intimate pics, lied to my face, and deceived me, etc. All while I am supporting him through school and paying for that phone he is deceiving me on! And the Lotus lol! I didn't buy it for him for his birthday! He is lying about that too! I work my ass off for everything I have and let him enjoy it too. So much for the appreciation of all I do for him and what he gets to share. I am not a mistrustful person, was in a marriage for 22 years and never once had a trust issue with my ex. We parted ways because he couldn't deal with stress and took it all out on me, being emotionally hurtful, and just bringing me down.
Also, I am 6 years older than him, not 7, am in GREAT shape, bust my ass at the gym, am attractive, financially stable, own a home and 3 cars, am responsible for three kids, and take pride in all I do. So he thinks he is going to have his cake and eat it to. He can have the 21 yr old feed his ego, but it isn't going to be at my expense. For all I give to him, I only wanted an equal partner, respect, honesty, and love. If he can't handle that, he should of said so and moved on. I certainly am the one putting everything into the relationship and can't even get the basics from him. I am just taking a big gamble on something that never may happen....he probably would bolt as soon as he graduates!
So let's hear it guys now that you have the full story! I stood by him through all kinds of shit (and there is plenty more), never judged him, cared about him and this is the deck of cards I was dealt! And somehow I am the one with the issues! Bring it on....I am dying to hear what you all have to say! Hopefully he will too and get to the root of some major character flaws. Otherwise how would you ever think you could be in any sort of successful relationship.
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