How Porn can Ruin Your Sex Life and Your Marriage

[rock75]

As usual, members want to start prescribing drugs to "cure" his problem.

Porn is terrible. It gives men an unreal picture of women and sex should be.

I not only do not view porn, I also do not masturbate. It has been over 2 years since I have done either.

It is not something easy to do but the benefits have been phenomenal.

Exactly, my brain has "rewired" itself as to what it wants sex to be like and when that stimuli isn't what it wants it shuts off. Then the psychological part of going limp or not being able to perform pops in my mind and fucks with me even more.

I pray to stay away from it man, I really need to.

 

[Gators]

Quadriplegic midgets with farm animals porn might put some pep in ya step. It weaned me off drunk sheep.

 

[rock75]

Quadriplegic midgets with farm animals porn might put some pep in ya step. It weaned me off drunk sheep.

LOL!

 

[Ehren]

I know what you mean. At one point, I "cut out the middleman" and dated a porn actress or two for a while a few years back. Can't say anything bad about it.

Except yeah, it did give me unrealistic expectations on the next "normal" girlfriend. Normal girls don't, well...like the same things as porn girls, apparently. haha.

Seriously though, good luck on your recovery, Bro.

 

[pesty4077]

My problem was I was not only watching porn, but cams. Then I go meet up with them girls and fuck them. Of course I was single at the time. Now that I am married, whole different ball game. Got to be careful watching that stuff, women think that you are losing interest in them. Guess marrying a girl 23 years younger then me help me control that urge a lot more. I can now say I am content.

 

[tattoo449]

Bro !! rock75 are you just figuring this out? Not being disrespectful but ahh if a man's brain ain't into it, his dick ain't into it either. Our brains are just as important a sex organ as our sex organ. I've been married for a while too and me and my wife fall into the same stuff as your talking about. Kids, work, and other distractions. But luckily for me I have a wife who is willing to spice things up and make sex interesting for us. and so do I. Lingerie, sexy outfits, both in good shape. I really like the school girl outfit she wears the best. Oh, with those high heel open toe shoes. Get the point. I don't know about you but, the missionary position with the lights off, once a month is definitly not good enough for me.

 

[Deleted member 121863]

nothing wrong with porn at all. My wife likes to watch it with me sometimes. I finished her the other day from behind while facing the tv with some real nice porn on. Not some nasty man oriented porn pros degrading shit. Just 2 attractive people getting it on, and they BOTH actually look like they are enjoying it, vs a girl being paid and uncomfortable to be there.

Next, if your not attracted to your wife any more because "she had kids", then she needs some help to "rehab" from having kids. It`s very tough on her body, nutrients are sucked out, that ab muscles actually separate so it can expand so large, forget about if she had a c-section. Those things need to be trained just to get back to normal. Imagine you broke a leg, the muscle is cut back to the bone for a rod, there would be major rehab.

Next, maybe your wife is just lame in bed... at least compared to porno. Get her to be more freaky, SLOWLY! Lots of women are just lame in bed, or turn into f`ing mommy`s after kids. What I mean is they get very conservative and lose focus of their own beauty, "feeling like a woman", feeling sexual. That needs to be encouraged along. If you doubt this concept, go anyplace that has lots of little kids. You will see a few tight moms, lots of chunkers, sweat pants, yoga pants (some are about to rip). When there I like to play a game called "count the pony tails". The epitome of, no mommy time, not feeling sexy and all about the kids combined into one.

I`ll agree, to much of the wrong porn can de-sensitive you to anything in the realm of "normal sex".

 

[robertfhub]

Porn is bad for relationships Unless both parties are down with it.

 

[little slice]

nothing wrong with porn at all. My wife likes to watch it with me sometimes. I finished her the other day from behind while facing the tv with some real nice porn on. Not some nasty man oriented porn pros degrading shit. Just 2 attractive people getting it on, and they BOTH actually look like they are enjoying it, vs a girl being paid and uncomfortable to be there.

Next, if your not attracted to your wife any more because "she had kids", then she needs some help to "rehab" from having kids. It`s very tough on her body, nutrients are sucked out, that ab muscles actually separate so it can expand so large, forget about if she had a c-section. Those things need to be trained just to get back to normal. Imagine you broke a leg, the muscle is cut back to the bone for a rod, there would be major rehab.

Next, maybe your wife is just lame in bed... at least compared to porno. Get her to be more freaky, SLOWLY! Lots of women are just lame in bed, or turn into f`ing mommy`s after kids. What I mean is they get very conservative and lose focus of their own beauty, "feeling like a woman", feeling sexual. That needs to be encouraged along. If you doubt this concept, go anyplace that has lots of little kids. You will see a few tight moms, lots of chunkers, sweat pants, yoga pants (some are about to rip). When there I like to play a game called "count the pony tails". The epitome of, no mommy time, not feeling sexy and all about the kids combined into one.

I`ll agree, to much of the wrong porn can de-sensitive you to anything in the realm of "normal sex".

quoted for truth.. the sad reality about marriage in America. if this isn't the case for you, consider yourself one lucky fucker

 

[Chode Logan]

Man I just watch mostly amateur porn, never been into porn stars or any crazy shit. Maybe that's why it doesn't affect me, I like watching normal girls do bad things, not people who make a living being dirty. It does nothing for me, I actually find porn stars disgusting and it's almost impossible for them to turn me on...I need it to resemble someone I could see on a daily basis, still hot but human. Like you know it was filmed without wanting people to see it haha.



I will say though, one time I was running tren and I found I started clicking on the shit I would usually say "eeew"....started to freak me out haha. Only on tren though.

 

[Chode Logan]

I should also add my wife knows and does not care whatsoever, it works for us. I just don't like her knowing when and what I am watching, but she knows it happens and is all for it.

 

[rock75]

nothing wrong with porn at all. My wife likes to watch it with me sometimes. I finished her the other day from behind while facing the tv with some real nice porn on. Not some nasty man oriented porn pros degrading shit. Just 2 attractive people getting it on, and they BOTH actually look like they are enjoying it, vs a girl being paid and uncomfortable to be there.

My wife and I used to as well and that's fine. The problem is she's not involved in it and it has taken my attention away from her sexuality.

Next, if your not attracted to your wife any more because "she had kids", then she needs some help to "rehab" from having kids. It`s very tough on her body, nutrients are sucked out, that ab muscles actually separate so it can expand so large, forget about if she had a c-section. Those things need to be trained just to get back to normal. Imagine you broke a leg, the muscle is cut back to the bone for a rod, there would be major rehab.

That is not it all at, she's very sexy and does not look like she's had 2 kids at all.

Next, maybe your wife is just lame in bed... at least compared to porno. Get her to be more freaky, SLOWLY! Lots of women are just lame in bed, or turn into f`ing mommy`s after kids. What I mean is they get very conservative and lose focus of their own beauty, "feeling like a woman", feeling sexual. That needs to be encouraged along. If you doubt this concept, go anyplace that has lots of little kids. You will see a few tight moms, lots of chunkers, sweat pants, yoga pants (some are about to rip). When there I like to play a game called "count the pony tails". The epitome of, no mommy time, not feeling sexy and all about the kids combined into one.


I`ll agree, to much of the wrong porn can de-sensitive you to anything in the realm of "normal sex".

she's not lame in bed, and that's my entire point and it's just my brains impression of porn sex and when that doesn't happen my brain shuts off and then my dick shuts off

 

[rock75]

Bro !! rock75 are you just figuring this out? Not being disrespectful but ahh if a man's brain ain't into it, his dick ain't into it either. Our brains are just as important a sex organ as our sex organ. I've been married for a while too and me and my wife fall into the same stuff as your talking about. Kids, work, and other distractions. But luckily for me I have a wife who is willing to spice things up and make sex interesting for us. and so do I. Lingerie, sexy outfits, both in good shape. I really like the school girl outfit she wears the best. Oh, with those high heel open toe shoes. Get the point. I don't know about you but, the missionary position with the lights off, once a month is definitly not good enough for me.

What I figured out was that me watching porn has de-sensitized my reality of sex with my wife to the image of what porn sex is - that's what I've admitted to and that's not right. That was the entire point of my post, that most men wouldn't think that, cause I know I didn't at first and the more I read on it the more it made sense to me and now hopefully I can remedy the situation. The saddest part is that it has affected her, why try if I can't get an erection or stay hard - to her that's rejection and i can't do that anymore to her, she doesn't deserve it.

 

[mewalrus]

Just abstain from it all and if you aren't ready to jump your wife in a few days/week max then maybe go see a doctor. I'll bet you'll be painfully ready....

 

[mewalrus]

What I figured out was that me watching porn has de-sensitized my reality of sex with my wife to the image of what porn sex is - that's what I've admitted to and that's not right. That was the entire point of my post, that most men wouldn't think that, cause I know I didn't at first and the more I read on it the more it made sense to me and now hopefully I can remedy the situation. The saddest part is that it has affected her, why try if I can't get an erection or stay hard - to her that's rejection and i can't do that anymore to her, she doesn't deserve it.

are you ON anything? did you recently come off? this could explain a lot. Using anything that elevates prolactin? some of the pep tides do this if you didn't know. Hell if you just had a kid very recently then that can mess up even the fathers hormones.

 

[rock75]

are you ON anything? did you recently come off? this could explain a lot. Using anything that elevates prolactin? some of the pep tides do this if you didn't know. Hell if you just had a kid very recently then that can mess up even the fathers hormones.

Kids are 8 and 5
Off of everything for the last 6 months

Working on getting bloods

 

[BigWave]

All right fellas, I've posted before about my ED and what I thought might be the cause and while Low T may be a reason my libido is shot I honestly don't feel it is the root cause to my ED. You see, I am able to get an erection when stimulated but during sex with my wife sometimes I would lose it. So i've been using the shit out of Google and have come to the realization that I am the reason for my ED. We have 2 little ones and all the married guys with children can attest that having sex with your spouse isn't always the easiest thing to do. I found myself staying up in the basement "watching tv" and then relieving myself to porn. Sounded like a good idea, better than cheating on my wife but I never would have thought that it would have desensitized me to the real thing. Well I have to admit that it has and it has put my relationship with my wife in jeopardy. It really sucks not being able to satisfy her, especially when I could give her multiple orgasms at almost every encounter. Your man hood gets questioned, not to mention she starts to take it personal. It's not a good thing right now.

So, like I've said - I've been Googling a lot about ED and came across some good articles regarding just that - Internet Porn and ED and thought I would share it because maybe I could help one guy from going through this fucked up situation.

**broken link removed**

I've deleted all my shortcuts and bookmarks for the porn and hopefully can save my sex life and my marriage. Right now it's a pyschological ED and I need to get it fixed in my mind!! I need to get my dopamine back - anyone know any good remedies for this?

God Bless!

Hmm, I think you're over thinking this. Either a chick turns us on physically, and or mentally, or she doesn't. It's a proven fact, the less physically attractive a women is, the nicer she needs to be to keep us interested. I think if a chick turns us on, we'd hit that shit regardless of how much porn. I think the author of that article must be an old, fat, bitch, looking for excuses..?

 

[rock75]

Hmm, I think you're over thinking this. Either a chick turns us on physically, and or mentally, or she doesn't. It's a proven fact, the less physically attractive a women is, the nicer she needs to be to keep us interested. I think if a chick turns us on, we'd hit that shit regardless of how much porn. I think the author of that article must be an old, fat, bitch, looking for excuses..?

There's more than just that article out there. I think you just need to go to the next thread but thanks for stopping by.

 

[BigWave]

There's more than just that article out there. I think you just need to go to the next thread but thanks for stopping by.

Sorry didn't mean to offend, disagree with the argument.

"Why does your beloved start to look to you like cold oatmeal, even if others see her as homemade pumpkin pie?"

"Stop climaxing to stimuli that produce more dopamine than she does."

"In another few weeks even his wife will give him a rush."

It just seems a bit like starving yourself so a crappy meal can taste good...ymmv. Moving on!

 

[rock75]

Sorry didn't mean to offend, disagree with the argument.

"Why does your beloved start to look to you like cold oatmeal, even if others see her as homemade pumpkin pie?"

"Stop climaxing to stimuli that produce more dopamine than she does."

"In another few weeks even his wife will give him a rush."

It just seems a bit like starving yourself so a crappy meal can taste good...ymmv. Moving on!

You took what you wanted from the article and missed the entire underlying meaning on what the article is about. I never said I wasn't attracted to my wife and never said she wasn't attractive - as a matter of fact I stated the opposite a few posts above. Taking bits and pieces of the entire article and assuming everything written in it is literal was your mistake.