Help! Advice needed

[roadrage]

Ok gentlemen, over the last few weeks, I have been thinking and acting more positive. I haven't gone to a professional yet, mainly because my daughter is playing softball and on the days she don't play, I work overtime and then head to the gym. I know, not a great excuse, but it is what it is. I'm going to eventually set up a time to start talking to a professional about my self esteem and so forth.

here's the thing.

I have an online personals ad and this girl contacted me and we have been chatting online for a few days now, this friday we're meeting for our 1st date, going to dinner then to see Shrek 3. Here is my issue, this chick has a degree in Psychology and she graduated at the top of her class. She's working in the medical field now, and to be honest, I'm a bit nervous.

For the people on here that are working in the field, when you date, do you analyze your dates more so then normal? Do you overanalyze them even? Do you charactorize them? do you ever catch yourself and say "hey just give him/her a chance, chill out with the psychology bs for tonight." lol

My brother told me to just relax and be myself, as she liked what I wrote (and what i have been saying as we have been chatting) and my sense of humor/movie taste/music taste caught her interest as well as my shoulders ;-) She's a cool girl so far, and I'm looking forward to meeting her but part of me is a little more nervous then a "first date" nervous. I don't want to become a "patient" while on a date lol. Maybe I'm over analyzing this date even before it begins ;-)

thanks,
R

 

[oldfella]

Be yourself

Hey rr, I'm not a psych or anything. Just do as your brother suggested. be the person she met online.......YOU. She is interested in meeting this guy. Keep your sense of humor, talk to her just as you chatted on line, no different. ignore her profession and find out a bit more about her. We all do something for a living....right???!! Do not be intimidated, I'll bet you she is a really cool chick and wants to meet someone to have good fun with! Good for you bro, and keep your confidence high. Do not pour out your troubles to this girl, she wants to enjoy her night with YOU not go to work!! Good luck bro and relax, you'll be fine man, really. let us know how it turns out.

 

[buffbabeca]

Great post Oldfella (as always) I agree.. Just be yourself. Anytime I am interested in a guy, I tell him from the first date. All that i ask is that you be yourself and if you truly are the things I desire then that will shine through by being yourself. I work for a bank that doesnt mean I analyze someone's investments and bank account. I dont want to think about when I am on a date. have fun and enjoy your time with her

 

[thebrick]

oldfella's and buff are right. Just be you. Do you really want to be in a relationship where you can't be yourself? + anything else and a woman can see right through the act.

 

[Amazon Doll]

Just don't get nervous and start spilling your guts out to her.

 

[lynx]

Just don't get nervous and start spilling your guts out to her.

LOL! Yeah then chances are she WILL analyze you!

 

[aquaholic]

You're going on a DATE.

Not attending a therapy session.

I can guarantee she'll be as nervous as you are

 

[Sigmund Roid]

Fear not.

We are all just human. It's a job. In a professional setting you behave in a professional manner. When the end of the day comes, a person just wants to enjoy themselves. That's true for someone who is schooled in psychological areas the same as in any other occupation.

Enjoy your date.

 

[hiddenbelow]

The only advice I can give is be yourself as said above. The worst thing that happens when people date is they hide who they really are and then come to find out after a month or so the person has been acting like a completely different person than they really are. Ends up being a shitty situation in the end for both parties.

DW

 

[vitor]

How did the date go???? It seems like u havent posted in a while, lets hope you fell in love and are having so much sex and lifting so hard you cant give your boys and update

 

[roadrage]

How did the date go???? It seems like u havent posted in a while, lets hope you fell in love and are having so much sex and lifting so hard you cant give your boys and update

Sad to say, no wild sex lol. Due to both of our schedules being a bit hectic right now, we've gone out maybe 6 times or so... The nervousness from the date ended shortly after I met her. I felt really relaxed with her from the very beginning. She's a lot different then other women I have dated. She has a wicked sense of humor, pretty much like my own, into fitness as much as I am, a hot little greek girl...yummy lol. She's been out of a relationship for a few months now, and asked to take things a little slow. I wouldn't say it bothers me as I know where she's coming from.

She rides horses and competes in shows, so she likes to stay active and in great shape, abs to die for. I think she has a comp coming up soon.

I'll let nature take its course with this, if things go further great, if not, that's fine too. I've been doing my own self improvments over the last few weeks, so I'll just let things happen naturally...

She does have a great booty tho lol.

R

 

[oldfella]

Sad to say, no wild sex lol. Due to both of our schedules being a bit hectic right now, we've gone out maybe 6 times or so... The nervousness from the date ended shortly after I met her. I felt really relaxed with her from the very beginning. She's a lot different then other women I have dated. She has a wicked sense of humor, pretty much like my own, into fitness as much as I am, a hot little greek girl...yummy lol. She's been out of a relationship for a few months now, and asked to take things a little slow. I wouldn't say it bothers me as I know where she's coming from.

She rides horses and competes in shows, so she likes to stay active and in great shape, abs to die for. I think she has a comp coming up soon.

I'll let nature take its course with this, if things go further great, if not, that's fine too. I've been doing my own self improvments over the last few weeks, so I'll just let things happen naturally...

She does have a great booty tho lol.

R

Hey RR, This sounds really good!! I'm glad the first date went well. Like many others that replied to you I was wondering how it went. Well I don't think I can give you any other fatherly advice here except do just as she wishes. Go slow, don't push or rush things. It will be so much better in the long run. All the very best to you my friend. Great news!!!

 

[vitor]

When she said go slow maybe she was refering to your sexual technique, no Rabbit Pounding for this one...

My dating advice is try to do things you both will enjoy. Your first date sounded great. Dinner and a movie. You can talk, eat, get some Rapport, then goto a movie, you cant talk, then talk about the movie, and go on yoru way.

A great date that I take my friends on is Shooting. Take a girl to the range and watch them liquify....

 

[oldfella]

When she said go slow maybe she was refering to your sexual technique, no Rabbit Pounding for this one...

My dating advice is try to do things you both will enjoy. Your first date sounded great. Dinner and a movie. You can talk, eat, get some Rapport, then goto a movie, you cant talk, then talk about the movie, and go on yoru way.

A great date that I take my friends on is Shooting. Take a girl to the range and watch them liquify....

Yea, shooting is cool. If she does'nt know how to handle a gun it gives you the perfect excuse/reason to stand very close behind her and help her hold and aim the gun. let's you be in control and have your arms fully around her. It can be somewhat sensual!! I love shooting!! Good vitor!!!